Beware of the whirlwind

Ladies! I’m sure you’ve seen it- it’s in the books we read, and the movies and shows we watch are saturated in it: whirlwind romances.

The hardworking, underrated beauty gets stuck in the elevator with her spoiled, rich, handsome, (yet somehow still single) boss and lightning strikes!

Or the witty, feisty, event planner lands a contract for an awesome guy who’s engaged to a total…let’s say ‘witch’, who reveals her true intentions in perfect timing to foil her own agenda and allow this event planning underdog to swoop in and be the answer to all the dreams he never knew he had– and the event planner and Mr. Awesome get married instead.

Days later.

Ladies, you have seen it! And I’m sure you have too fellas- your wife, ex-girlfriend or someone in your life has roped you into watching something with a very similar story line. And you shake your head in disbelief while wondering if your IQ has dropped a few points.

I understand.

But this is what we love to watch.

And I speak for myself when I divulge the reason why: because it’s not real!

The reality of it is, the hardworking, underrated, beauty might get stuck in the elevator with her spoiled, rich boss. True enough.

But in reality; the boss either ignores her completely because they are of two totally different socioeconomic statuses. Or she only thought that lightning struck. They go back to his place where she becomes just another notch on his bedpost. A few months later, she quits or gets fired when she meets his wife or fiancé at the company Christmas party.

You already know what happens to the event planner, don’t you? Nothing. She continues to plan the event because he does in fact marry the witch that’s no good for him. The event planner sulks for a week or two while listening to love songs and imagining what could’ve been. Event planner runs into Mr. Awesome five years later and he is a divorcée with twice the kids and half the money he had before.

They try to rekindle the flame they once had, but Mr. Awesome now has trust issues and isn’t quite over his ex wife. On top of that, event planner “is really focused on her career right now “.That’s really just lonely woman code for ‘I dated a few jerks and it didn’t work out, so now I’m jaded.’ They have sex a couple of times and secretly blame each other for it not working out.

Who wants to watch that?!

Reality bites enough sometimes. I don’t know about you, but I watch movies and tv to get away from reality a little bit. That is why I watch romantic comedies and the like. I want to see the underdog win.

That is why I say; “beware of the whirlwind.” Because in real life, most people are cautious. They don’t jump into life-long commitments with people they met a week ago. So, if a person tries to “romantic comedy ” you; dig a little. Meet his or her family. Talk to their friends. Don’t “Jessica Fletcher ” them, but be careful.

Because only Fools Rush In. (Another romantic comedy.)

Be blessed, be free, be true to yourself.