Hello Beautiful Souls!
To those of you who have never felt lost (you should be immensely grateful by the way) this may seem like a strange topic to you. On the surface it seems an odd idea that you could actually be anything other than who you really are. But from the time we can talk, we’re being programmed to “fit in”. We find ourselves conforming in order to please the people we love, and who love us.
But sometimes appeasing the people you love means that you have to suppress what you know is the real person inside. We often make these sacrifices for different relationships, forgetting that the relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll ever have. Without a healthy relationship with yourself, it’s practically impossible to have healthy relationships with anyone else.
If you’re ready to get reacquainted with someone you haven’t seen in a while – you – start with these 4 ideas to help you rediscover the real you.
- Quiet the noise in your head
You know those voices well, the ones that are constantly nagging you to pick up the dry cleaning, talk to the schoolteacher, juggle the bills, schedule the vet, cook dinner, keep the boss happy. With all that noise going on, it will be impossible for you to hear the thoughts and ideas that’ll lead to genuine happiness. This MUST be the first step. How do you do that? By setting up systems, simplifying, and establishing enough extras in your life to allow you to operate from a position of abundance, instead of lack.
- Practice thinking about yourself in healthy ways
In order to do that, you must first believe that you are valuable, and your Real Self has something to offer the world. Since you talk to yourself more than everyone else in your life combined –that’s a lot of talk! —it’s up to YOU to establish healthy communication in your thinking. Consciously listen to how you talk to yourself; write down the unhealthy things you say, challenge them; and replace them with facts. Self-Talk: “You never do anything right.” Challenge: “Of course I do things right. I did (example) right. I did (example) right. This time, I just made a mistake. I’ll learn from it and have better success next time.”
- Listen to your heart
Sounds easy enough, but by the time we’re adults, most of us have stopped listening to our hearts and go only with our heads. Our hopes and dreams have become foolish ideas; quiet whispers. The heart and mind must reconnect in order to find your real self. It’s easy to become accustomed to thinking about your feelings instead of really feeling them. Instead of asking yourself what you think about something, ask how it makes you feel and why it’s important.
- Be careful not to get hung-up on a specific goal
What you’re really after is fulfillment — respect, love, appreciation, abundance, time freedom – as opposed to superficial things that give an impression of success. Keep an open mind to the feelings and be willing to adjust the methods you use to achieve them. This is not to say that goal setting isn’t important- on the contrary. Setting a goal and taking action starts you on the path to success. Just don’t be too rigid in how your goal gets accomplished. When setting goals, focus on how it satisfies who you really are. You’ll feel the freedom of authenticity and your real self will come shining through.
The genuine person you can know and love is waiting for you to take the time to listen, understand, and accept. When you accept your Real Self again, you’ll make smarter choices, and those choices will stick because they actually fit who you are. Now, that’s what you’re really looking for, isn’t it?
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Until next time beautiful souls, keep glowing…
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