Ways to Renew Your Glow

Hello Beautiful Soul!

Healthy self-esteem is necessary to have in order to achieve high levels of success. For those who have experienced certain trauma or abuse, healthy self- esteem may seem like an uphill battle. I have found that my experience with narcissistic abuse was extremely damaging to my self-esteem. For quite some time it was an arduous battle. But you can win the battle over low self-esteem with these 4 simple steps…

1. Affirmations

Affirmations are simply positive things that you say out loud to yourself every day. This can be difficult at times because you may not actually believe what you are saying. But if you stick to it, you will begin to believe the positive things about yourself-what’s actually true- just as you believed the negative things that were said about you.

The most important thing about self-esteem is this: Increased self esteem has to start with you. Other people can only affect your self-esteem if you believe what they are telling you. Affirmations are a good way to shift your thoughts and reinforce traits and behaviors that you desire. If you are shy and intimidated by people, you can use an affirmation such as this: I am self-assured and confident when interacting with people.

Repeat this to yourself out loud at least 10 times before you leave your room. When you say this, don’t just mumble it either, say it as many times as necessary until you say it with passion and conviction.

2. Read to grow

Again, increased self-esteem starts with you. Read something every day for at least 30 minutes that will help you increase your self-esteem. This can be an article, a book, or even an audio series. The more you learn the more you will grow. The more you grow, the more your self-esteem will improve. Personal development e-books are available on my website and are very inexpensive. Be on the lookout for new material, as I will be adding some soon.

3. Take action everyday

Do something every day, starting with something small, that directly deals with your low self esteem. For instance, if you can’t talk with people because you feel insecure or awkward, just start off by saying ‘Hi’. As you get more comfortable with this, then start to make small talk. You will begin to feel more and more confident until you have overcome low self-esteem in that area. Remember-consistency builds confidence and confidence can also build your self-esteem.

4. Stop the negative thoughts

Negative thoughts are like landmines. As soon as you step out to face your fear, a negative thought comes and tells you that you can’t do it and BOOM; you believe it and lose that round. Instead, diffuse negative thoughts before they have a chance to do damage.

The four steps listed above will help you increase your self esteem and become the person you really want to be. Just remember to be gentle and patient with yourself. You are not going to change overnight, but as long as you are progressing, you are winning the war.

If you’ve experienced a toxic or narcissistic relationship and need a coach to help you rebuild and recover, feel free to schedule a free Discovery Glow call with me to see if my coaching program is a good fit for you.

A Couple of Tips to Stop Negative Thoughts

Rewrite your Story: Change the narrative by creating a positive thought for each negative thought that you have. This method is very effective! When I find myself thinking negative thoughts, I cut them off and ask myself ‘why?’

The Rubberband Method: *Try at your own risk*-   Put a rubber band around your wrist. Every time a thought comes into your head that tells you that you can’t, you will never succeed, you are a loser, or anything negative, SNAP the rubber band on your wrist.

I do hope that these tips have been useful to you. Feel free to share your thoughts and tips as well 😊

Until Next Time Beautiful Souls, keep Glowing… http://www.glowwithmimi.com