What Station are You On?

Hello Beautiful Souls!

Do you want to do something different? Not just different, but life changing! Maybe you have a goal, a dream, a hope, an ambition in your mind that you’ve been quiet about. And you’ve been quiet because you want this thing so badly, but you don’t think you can have it. Maybe you’re afraid that your family and friends won’t support you- that they’ll call you crazy. Does this sound like you? A person who wants more out of life, but it always seems to be so far out of reach. Are you the one? The one who has big dreams that you hope to make a reality.

Well, if that’s you then I have great news! Your dreams can become a reality with hard work, planning, consistency, and the right mindset. Think of mindset as a frequency or radio station. When you want to listen to a particular radio station, you tune your radio to that station, tuning in to a particular frequency. Same when you want to watch a particular show on TV. It is the frequency you tune into that determines what you hear and what you see.

Our brains operate in very much the same way, except that we have only two stations we can tune into – the ego station and the elevated (or higher-self) station.

The ego station is the station that originates in the programmed mind, which contains all our limiting beliefs that create our fears. The ego station is our wounded self, our false self – the protected self we learned to be as we were growing up and needed to find ways to have control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe. Our ego wounded self is a closed circuit – it operates on old information that we acquired as we were growing up, information that is no longer relevant or even true. It is not open to new information. It is not open to truth.

The elevated station is the station that taps into the unlimited information from the universe – information that is beyond the programmed mind. This station has self- awareness. And with that comes confidence, peace, and true contentment. The elevated station taps into the Source of truth that is always here to guide us in our highest good.

How do you tune your frequency to your elevated station?

We have all been given a “dial” that either tunes us to the low frequency of our ego station, or to the high frequency of our elevated station. This dial is our INTENT.

We have only two intents to choose from:

The intent to get love and avoid pain with some form of controlling behavior

The intent to learn about loving ourselves and others

The intent to have control over getting love and avoiding pain lowers our frequency and keeps us stuck in our limited mind – our ego mind. When we choose this intent/frequency, we are stuck thinking the thoughts – the lies – and taking the unloving actions that create fear, anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, stress, anger, jealousy, resentment, and so on. The ego frequency is the frequency of being a victim. We choose this frequency when we choose the intent to have control over getting love and avoiding pain.

At any moment, we can change our minds and choose the intent to learn – about what is in our highest good and the highest of all. We can choose to learn about our ego mind rather than stay stuck in it. The moment we choose the intent to learn about love, we raise our frequency and are able to access the elevated station. This is like moving out of the limitations of our personal computer and into the Internet – only better. While some of the information on the Internet is true and some is not, all of the information we receive from the elevated station is true – it comes from the Source of Truth.

The only thing that stops us from choosing the elevated station is our addiction to control. The ego mind wants control over our feelings, over others’ feelings and actions, and over the outcome of things. When your desire for control is greater than your desire to be loving to yourself and others, and greater than your desire to live in truth, you will remain stuck in the ego station.

The ego station tells us that we can have control over things that we actually have no control over – others and outcomes. While we can have some control over our feelings with various addictions, this only leads to greater unhappiness. Our feelings are an inner guidance system, letting us know when we are on track or off track in our thinking and behavior, so suppressing them with addictions only lead to more pain.

You will discover great joy when you choose the intent to learn about loving yourself and others and access the incredible information that is yours when you are tuned into your elevated station. I am on this journey now. I’m far from perfect, my frequency gets a little static from time to time but I get so much joy from tuning in to my elevated station as often as I can!

Until next Time Beautiful Souls, keep Glowing…

After Divorce: 7 Ways to Rediscover Your Passion

Hello Beautiful Souls!

Going through a divorce is a very challenging time in a person’s life. It is hard to adjust to being single again, as well as living “out of the habit” of being married, especially if you have been married for many, many years. When I got a divorce from the father of my child, I felt lost. I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life because I had spent so much of my young adult life being a part of a team- a unit. A new chapter had started in my life and I felt like I was standing still. Staring dimly at a blank page. Divorce and break-up can be a really challenging time in our lives. Where do you even start?

Eventually, you begin to think about dating, but it is suggested that you take your time. Use this precious opportunity to rediscover yourself. Think of this time in your life as an adventure to explore the real you. If you have worked outside the home combined with being a mom and wife for the last ten, fifteen or twenty years, you may have lost yourself along the way. Certainly not on purpose, but as most women try to do it all as “super” moms, many times we put our own wants and needs on hold to keep our families and jobs running smoothly!

Take a deep breath and let’s start to rediscover our true passions and say…Will the Real Me Please Stand Up!

1. Treasure Your Gifts Within

Realizing we are all born as “gold nuggets” is a hard concept for many women to believe about themselves. Think about how magnificent you really are! Over time, you might have forgotten your unique gifts and are only thinking of what you don’t like about yourself or your life. Set a new intention, starting today, to list all of your great qualities and read that list everyday. Keep reading it until you believe it. Examples: beautiful smile, kindness, generosity, loving, caring, intelligent… keep going. Your list is endless when you start focusing on your great qualities. Allow yourself to see the shining glow within. It’s already there!

2. Give Yourself A Break

During and after a divorce it is common to have the feeling of grieving, similar to that of the loss of someone. Many women feel the need to stay busy to keep their minds off of this stressful time, such as working overtime or cleaning the house from top to bottom, but let this time also include pampering yourself. Barter with a friend or neighbor to watch your children or leave work a few minutes early so you can stop to sit on a park bench long enough to get that sense of the unique and special YOU. Take this time to experience life even for only 10 minutes without feeling like a wife, mother, sister or daughter… simply you!

Yes, you do deserve to do something special for yourself. It can be as simple as taking a bath or a walk, going to the mall or reading a book with your favorite cup of tea. Give yourself permission – it’s O.K. Remember, the happier you are, the happier your family will be!

3. No regrets! No bitterness!

Holding onto regrets and bitterness will only keep your life from moving forward. Is your inner voice working overtime with all the “what ifs” and “if onlys”? This is normal for a period of time, but ask yourself…are these thoughts serving me or helping me feel better? Will thinking about them over and over again change anything? To move your life forward, it is important to acknowledge your feelings and to learn from your past experiences to prepare yourself for the next exciting chapter of your life. Yes, there is life after divorce. Learn to let it go! Just, let it go!

A quote from Buddy Hackett, “I never hold a grudge because while I am being angry, the other person is out dancing.”

4. Enjoy the Little Things

Life after divorce usually means added responsibilities. If you are a single parent or are now the one responsible for the once shared to-do list, how do you handle it all without being totally stressed out? To start, learn to laugh more, especially at yourself. Learn to let things go and not take life so seriously. Lighten-up! Learn to live in the present moment. Living in the present is where all the “good stuff” in life happens. Yesterday’s worries are gone forever and tomorrow’s to-do list can wait. Think of it this way, when one is missing this moment in time, one is missing out on one’s life. Your life is in the present moment. Nothing else matters, because nothing else exists.

So how do we live in the present?

If you are feeling stressed, immediately leave your thoughts in your head and take off your blinders. (Blinders similar to what a horse would wear, not allowing it to see from side to side). Start to look around you. I mean really look around you. Look closely at everything. Really focus. Use all your senses! For example, if you are with your children observe them. Cherish their smiles. Give them a hug. See the true beauty of who they are and appreciate them for being a part of your life. You will start to feel your stress subside and a feeling of peace sweep over you.

To be present, no matter where you are, use all your senses to pull you back into the moment. Take time to appreciate all the beauty that already exists around you. You only have to be present to see it!

5. What Makes Your Heart Sing?

What really matters to you? What do you feel is your true purpose in life? If someone asked you that question, how would you answer them?

Why is it so important to be clear on what your life’s purpose is? Knowing your purpose, will give you a true sense of who you are and why you were put on this earth. It gives your life direction and helps you make clear and easy decisions concerning that direction. It’s your compass! Without a purpose, can your life be compared to a piece of driftwood; Floating endlessly in whichever direction the tide decides to take it and ending up on any beach with no will of its’ own?

When you live your life based on your purpose you are living in integrity with yourself and are in alignment of who you really are in all aspects of your life – body, mind and spirit. Take this time to focus on what really matters to you. Feel the true passions that exist in your heart and write them down.

6. What Are Your Vibes Saying About You?

Are you familiar with the Law of Attraction? Maybe you have heard the expressions, “What you think about, you bring about” or “The more attention you give to something, the more attention it will give to you.” When going through a divorce, your emotions can be compared to a roller coaster ride. Use this time to become reconnected to your inner awareness of who you are. Learn to sit still and quiet until you understand what emotions you are feeling. Realize that your feelings and sensations are okay, then learn to listen to what your mind and body are telling you.

Here is a great tip…recognize if your feelings are low energy or high energy.

A few examples of low energy are stress, negativity, fear, resentment, or a sense of lack (lack of time or money) and high energy is joy, abundance, happy, positive, love or compassion. If you are having feelings of low energy, how do you make a shift to feel more of the high energy?

First, acknowledge and accept the feelings you are having. Be gentle with yourself! Your goal is to make a shift, but realize you might not be able to go from low to high instantly. Start with baby steps! Repeat step number one and become present! Be thankful for what is working in your life right now. Do something simple like pat your pet, smell a flower or, if you are in the office, take a minute to think of a previous fun time or experience you have had that could bring a smile to your face. Feel the shift you are starting to make in your energy.

Now, to amp up this high energy feeling, think of another time of joy or something you were passionate about in your life. Keep adding these thoughts to your high energy feeling and begin to feel great! Does it seem the people or situations around you have changed or is it you who has really changed? So, who has the power to feel their own joy? When you are feeling your high energy, this is the time to take your next inspired action and enjoy the feeling of accomplishing something with ease and less effort!

7. Be True To Yourself

During and even after a divorce, we are often filled with doubts. We question ourselves about what is right, what to do or how we feel. Should I or shouldn’t I? It seems difficult to make a decision. Listen to your heart. What feels right? What doesn’t feel quite right? If a situation does not feel right, honor your resistance by pausing or waiting. Sometimes waiting is the best thing to do. By waiting you may have allowed the situation to unfold more easily without having to worry! If a decision feels good or right, usually that means you are heading in the right direction. When we listen to our hearts, we are in integrity with ourselves. When we are in integrity with ourselves, we learn to say NO more easily.

Has this ever happened to you? You are asked to be on a committee or to volunteer for something and you say yes, even though you know it will make your schedule even tighter or you really don’t want to or have to?

How do you stop this from happening? Next time you are in this situation and you are ready to say yes, yet, find yourself having doubts, try this … STOP! Take a breath or even take a step back (this action will prevent you from saying yes). Pause! Thank the person for thinking of you, but let them know you will have to check your calendar and get back to them. When you do have time to think about it, focus on how you are feeling. Are you excited to volunteer or do you feel some resistance? If in a day or two you are still feeling doubtful, realize the timing might not be right for you. If you are still excited, join the committee and have fun!

Divorce is not easy or fun and you can make it through this time of your life by realizing you WILL make it! Also, honor yourself and listen to your heart! Your true purpose and passions are waiting to be rediscovered within you! When you have discovered the “gold nugget” you already are, you will start to live your life with more ease and enjoy the feeling of peace. “You are truly free!”

Enjoy your freedom!

Until Next Time Beautiful Souls, keep Glowing…

Burn the Ships!

Hello Beautiful Souls!

Despite any differences we may have, one thing we all have in common is that we are on a journey to accomplish our goals. The journey may be unfamiliar and challenging, but it is uniquely yours and completely worthwhile. One of the keys to reaching your goals is to eliminate any escape routes. It is tempting to retreat to safety and comfort when challenges and difficulties arise. To avoid turning around and abandoning your goals, you must make going forward more compelling than going back.

When striving towards a goal, you must focus on what you want to obtain and avoid the impulse to go back to what you know and to what is comfortable. You’ve got to be so committed to your missions that it becomes the option and not just an option. When Spanish Conquistador Hernando Cortez landed in Mexico, one of his first orders to his men was to burn the ships. Cortez was committed to his mission and did not want to allow himself or his men the option of going back to Spain. By removing this option, Cortez and his men were forced to focus on how they could make the mission successful.

Eliminating an escape route creates a compelling reason to focus on the goal and to keep moving forward. However, it is important to keep in mind that although Cortez had his men burn the ships, he did not have them burn the food and supplies. Cutting off an escape route to increase motivation and create the desire to press on where you might otherwise give up is totally different from throwing caution to the wind and taking undue risks. Reaching your goals still requires prudent planning and managing. All goals contain a certain degree of risk, but it isn’t necessary to create undue risk and stress by not properly planning and thus lacking the necessary tools and supplies to achieve your goal. Take risks, but don’t be careless or foolish and simply hope that everything will be okay.

Before you decide to burn your ships, make sure you have the supplies and tools necessary to achieve the goal. Something like quitting your job might sound like a good way to close the escape route, but it might also be a fast way to bankruptcy if you don’t have resources to carry you through. Creating a savings account or having a journey job (a job that is a steppingstone to what you really want) allows you to take the risk of leaving your current job without creating undue risk.

Close off the escape routes and make sure that you have a compelling reason to move forward. However, at the same time, make sure that you plan for the risk and have the tools, supplies, and resources you need to achieve your goals. You can’t eliminate risk, but you can plan for it. Don’t just jump in without thinking through the process and having a solid plan for moving forward.

So burn the ships! But do so responsibly.

Until Next Time Beautiful Souls, Keep Glowing…

Blast Through Barriers

Blast Through Barriers to your Goals

Hello Beautiful Souls!

Sometimes we set goals in life that we do not accomplish. For one reason or another, we encounter some sort of barrier that deters or interferes with our desired outcome. When we don’t accomplish goals, especially important/big ones, we tend to be less excited and even less confident moving forward. This decline in confidence causes some to give up on their goals altogether.

One of the reasons we do not face our goals is because when we are faced with an unexpected barrier that we’re unsure how to deal with, we shut down. We become discouraged, we start making excuses, and we allow ourselves to back off of our original plan. While this is a human and natural tendency, it’s not conducive to success.

An important step that you can take to avoid this barrier blunder is that of carefully planning your goal to include backup plans for all those little “what ifs.”

“What if I don’t pass the prerequisite course?”

“What if I don’t get the loan?”

“What if I run out of time?”

“What if the marketing doesn’t work?”

“What if I just don’t feel like it?”

These are all very real barriers that keep us from realizing our life dreams. By planning for them, we greatly improve our chances of succeeding and experience the power of being unstoppable.

What kind of barriers can you preplan?

Internal Barriers

Internal barriers include the thoughts you have about your goal, success, and yourself that keep you from being successful. They include your personal fears, motivation, self-esteem, and paradigms.

“What if I just don’t feel like doing my assignment?”

Solution – commit to working on it for at least 15 minutes. Then take a break and come back to it later.

“What if my fear of the phone keeps me from following through on my marketing campaign?”

Solution – have a friend help me make phone calls. It might not be so bad if I’m not alone.

“What if I find myself procrastinating?”

Solution – ask a friend to call me every day to remind me to spend a little time on my goal. Work on my goal first thing in the morning to get it done and over with. Having an accountability partner is a practice that a lot of successful employ.

External Barriers

External barriers include barriers such as money, time, other people’s reactions, resources, and results. We are not in direct control of them, but we can affect how they work and we can still plan around them.

“What if the client turns down my proposal?”

Solution – ask questions to find out why and resubmit it.

“What if I forget the worksheets?”

Solution – fax a copy to the hotel and get new copies made.

“What if the landscaping blocks don’t come in on time?”

Solution – pad the timeline and notify the client of this possibility in advance. Realign timeline to work on other projects until the blocks come in.

Practice this technique with even your small, short-term goals. It feels great to know that when a brick wall appears in your path, you have the perfect solution for getting around it and getting back on the road to achievement!

Until Next Time, Beautiful Souls

Keep Glowing…

What’s Your Story?

Hello Beautiful Souls!

I want to share an experience with you because I found it to be extremely impactful in my life and I hope that it can be impactful for you too.

Some time back, I met a very special individual while networking on Tiktok. I believe that he is one of my tribe because of the way we were drawn to each other. During our first encounter he asked me, “what’s your story?” And I’m not going to lie to you, for some reason, that question had me shook.

I stammered. I saw that he was a life coach as well, and then my insecurities started to rise up on the inside of me. I had been battling a pretty tough case of imposter syndrome during that time. * Is he trying to Coach me? I wondered. But no, that wasn’t it.

Then, my unhealed mistrust for men popped into the forefront of my mind. I asked myself, What’s his angle? What does he want? **

Turns out, he wanted exactly what he asked- to know what my story was.

So, What is my story?

I had a hard time answering that question because for a while I didn’t even know that I had an actual story. I was so focused on the opinions of others, that I had adopted their writings into my story. I was behaving like a victim of circumstance rather than taking ownership of my own life! I had experienced so many painful things and I was embarrassed. I didn’t know how to tell my story without feeling hurt, anger, or shame.

But I learned from Dean Graviosi’s book that there is a negative story and a positive one. The negative story is the one that you may have been taught from influential people in your life or it may be a belief gathered from an unfavorable experience. *** This negative story prevents us from doing what is the truest to us. For me, the upbringing in lack and poverty along with my low self-esteem served as a perfect accelerant for my negative story of not being good enough.

I have been married twice. And I felt inadequate in both marriages. I took on the more traditional role- as I was raised to. I cooked, cleaned, sewed, supported my spouse, and was the best wife and parent that I knew how to be at that time. But I was unhappy and didn’t feel valued. At some point in both marriages, my spouse at the time so much as informed me of my lack of actual value. My first husband claimed that my contributions were so insignificant that I could ‘stand still like a statue’ and the household would still run perfectly without a hitch.

My second husband, who I met while still recovering from my first marriage, went on to say that I had nothing when I met him and that I would continue to have nothing after our separation. After my second marriage imploded, I was left homeless. I took that as confirmation that what my ex-husbands had said about me was true.

But it was not true then and it isn’t true now! That was the negative story that was embedded in me that kept me from going for what I wanted in life. I was stifled by an idea of inadequacy that I had formed based on the opinions of others.

Today, once and for all, I disown and completely eradicate that negative story and I work each and every day to create my true story. My real story is that I am a Powerful, Strong, Smart, Kind, Caring, Leader, Life Coach, Writer, Motivator, and Business Woman who affects positive change everywhere I go. I speak clearly and with purpose to the hearts of people who are hurting because I know what it’s like to suffer in silence and feel like there’s no way out.

You see, my actual story is nothing like the story my exes told. My story is a fabulous one. And it is still being written.

What’s your Story?

Until Next Time Beautiful Souls,

Keep Glowing…

Love Thyself

Hello beautiful souls!

I’m excited to share with you my new ebook on Amazon entitled Love Thyself .

Go ahead and check that out if it interests you and leave a review as well. Thank you!

Until next time, beautiful souls

Keep Glowing…💖

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Creating Positive Change

Hello Beautiful Souls!

There are times in a person’s life when they may feel stuck. They may be in a situation that is making them unhappy, however they are lacking the motivation or extra push they need to help them create positive change in their life. Sometimes they are not even sure what it is that they want.

If a person is unclear as to what their goal is, they can look at each area of their life. Those areas may include Family, friends, health, career, finances, physical location, hobbies, and their love life. They can begin by determining on a scale of one to ten (ten being best) how they feel about each of those areas of their life. After they determine which area has the lowest number, they can then think about what they can do to make that area a “ten”.

Once a person has determined what their goal (or dream) is, they can then begin to focus on it by determining what steps they need to take to get there. One thing to consider is that even though a person may not be happy with their current situation, it was that situation that launched their dream. It was the point of disappointment or dissatisfaction that they experienced that highlighted a need to make changes. So, it is important to appreciate where a person is in their life because it helps to create a positive mental attitude. This attitude can help to move a person in the right direction more quickly.

Also, it is a good idea for a person to surround themselves with other people who have similar goals. This support system can add more motivation and can provide even more ideas which will help them to reach their goal. Determination is very important, because the person who did not reach their goal is usually the one who gave up before they reached the “finish line”. (It has been said that Thomas Edison tried 700 times before successfully creating a light bulb.) Sometimes, a person simply needs to keep trying and not give up.

For someone who could use some extra motivation, a personal life coach can help them to find out what they want and can help inspire them to get there. Also, some qualified individuals can provide positive visualization, which helps people to reach their goal more quickly by using the power of the subconscious mind. Combining the two techniques can really help a person to create positive change in their life.

Until Next Time, Beautiful Souls!

Mimi Loves You

Intro: The Evolution

Hello Beautiful Souls!

I’ve been thinking about some things and realized that I had it all wrong. I had to deal with my perception of myself in order to get to this level of openness, but I believe that I’m finally there. I’ve been working on my book The Evolution for a while now. It’s been a slow journey. I procrastinated, I had writer’s block, I prioritized other tasks over writing this book and now I finally realize why.

I was afraid to be vulnerable. I was holding on to pieces of my old self that had long since proven useless. I was afraid of vulnerability because I have a big heart. I love openly, easily, freely, deeply- and often I’d loved the wrong people. Those people took my openness and vulnerability and used them as weapons against me. After being so deeply hurt, I became angry with and afraid of vulnerability. I learned how to help people, I got certifications, I had empathy and an eager heart and I was on my way. I began to use my platform to encourage people and it was gratifying but I still felt like something was missing.

What happened was that I was speaking sincerely, but wasn’t connecting with it emotionally because I didn’t want anyone to see or feel my vulnerability. I was giving advice without sharing my experience. It didn’t feel like me. I was still hiding.

But now, I have reached this level of understanding and clarity, this level of self-awareness that reminds me that it is my story, my emotion, my vulnerability, my voice that will impact people and help me reach them. I can only reach them as Me- not as anyone else.

So, with that I share with you the Introduction to my book that’s coming soon:

The Evolution.

I hope you enjoy it.

Introduction

Have you ever felt like you just weren’t good enough? If so, I want you to know that you aren’t alone. I’ve felt inadequate most of my life. I would be motivated and inspired to do well, and I’d have the best intentions, but when the rubber met the road-

Nothing.

I used to wonder what was wrong with me. Why couldn’t I just find my place in life? I had gathered a degree and multiple certificates, yet never worked in the fields in which I qualified.

I am certified and completely competent to be a life coach. But I didn’t own the title of life coach. I didn’t tell anyone that I was a life coach. Only the people closest to me even knew. I was on social media every day. Why wasn’t ‘Life Coach’ mentioned in my Instagram biography? Why wasn’t it mentioned anywhere? I have also self-published more than two books. Why didn’t I promote my own writings? Why did I not call myself an author? What did I even call myself?!

A conversation that I had with my sister one day caused me to ponder these things.

After some self-reflection, I realized why. It was imposter syndrome. I felt like a complete fraud! Who was I to give anyone life advice? I asked myself. My life was in shambles, and I didn’t believe in myself. How could I coach anyone into anything when I couldn’t even govern my own life?! These are the types of thoughts that went through my head.

The realization that I’m having as I write this, is that I didn’t think I was good enough to be a life coach. I surmised that a life coach is a person that has it all figured out. According to my assumptions, a life coach has the best career, the best life, the best everything. I never thought of myself as one who had it all together, and I thought a life coach had to have all the answers. That isn’t true. The rule is that no one has all the answers and life coaches are not the exception. All a life coach really needs is perspective and determination. Perspective on and understanding of certain life choices and experiences, the desire to incite and encourage, and the determination to navigate their own life journey while seeking to help others navigate through theirs. That is a life coach.

A life coach is an individual who wants to see you make it. A person that hopes the best for you and wishes for you to pursue the things that light up your life. A life coach does not seek to tell you how to live your life, on the contrary; their aim is to empower you to choose and decide your own path. And that is exactly who I am. I am a passionate being. One that is willing to expose my vulnerabilities and experiences in hopes that it will help and heal others.

I had grown from certain life experiences and wanted to, if possible; prevent other people from going through the pain that I’d endured from those situations. I want to share my growth and ignite self-love and change through my openness. I’d like to help people see how wonderful they are and how wonderful life can be for them if they just authentically be themselves. I want as many people to benefit from my growth as possible. This growth has led me to the place where I am now. A uniquely beautiful place where I understand the power of perspective. The place where I genuinely believe that people are absolute magic and just need to be reminded that they are. I am convinced that all anyone truly needs is to find their inner glow. To understand that their purpose in life is to live joyfully and be the star of their own show. (And maybe that sounds corny to some people, but I don’t care!)

That’s what life is about for me. Helping people become the best versions of themselves while I become the best version of myself. Everyone has the capability of being their most evolved self; some people just need to be shown how.

But that’s not how I saw it before. I used to think that people were evil and mean. Selfish. Animalistic. And I felt this way because I had spent my former years blaming people for the pains and traumas that I had suffered.

As I went through life the weight of low self-esteem, resentment, and perceived rejection had taken its toll on me. I had gotten to a low point that no one could help me out of. No one but me. So, I became my first client. And with time, patience, consistency, and effort; I continue to evolve.

I want to tell you how I did it. How I’m doing it. My earnest desire is that you receive encouragement, enlightenment, and healing from this book. Thank you for taking the time to read my writing. I hope it does your heart some good.

Until Next Time Beautiful Souls,

Mimi Loves You

Coaching Blog: Creating Goals with an Action Plan!

Hello Beautiful Souls!

We all know how important goal setting is, but if we set goals without an action plan our efforts are futile and nothing more than elaborate hopes. If you have ever set goals before, but failed to achieve them, it may have been because you did not create a specific plan of action to accomplish those goals.

Taking the time to set goals is only part of the process of goal setting, and many people often overlook the other part, creating a plan!

Without a plan your goals remain incomplete. It’s like having a destination without having a map. Your goals tell you where you want to go in life, and your plan tells you how to get there.

A goal plan is simply a list of scheduled activities that you will do sometime in the future. These may include activities done over a series of days, weeks, months or even years depending on the type of goal you set for yourself.

Your plan does not have to be completed perfectly the first time. Usually, you will find that your first attempt at creating a goal plan will be vague and incomplete. Don’t worry this is ok. Plans should be flexible and so are likely to be constantly updated as you move towards completing your primary goal.

In your plan you should create a series of steps that you think you need in order to accomplish that goal. Think of it like baking a cake. Your ultimate goal is to make a cake (and eat it!), but the ingredients and the things you do with those ingredients are your plan. Once you complete the plan, you complete your goal.

Creating a goal plan is frequently overlooked, and many people discipline themselves to write their goals every day but create no plan! So, make sure you take the time to decide where you want to go (your goals) and then create a plan (your map) that will tell you how to get there!

In addition to your goal plan, it is also a good idea to use visualization to help clarify in your mind exactly what you want to achieve. This can simply involve thinking about your goals and imaging them as completed when you go to bed. You can do this for about 10 minutes (or longer if you want) before you fall to sleep, and you will be surprised at what a difference it makes in achieving your goals. One of the main reasons visualization before sleep is so effective, is that it provides easy access to the subconscious mind. Thereby allowing you to program your goals into your mind, increasing the likelihood you will accomplish them.

Know that your dreams aren’t just silly hopes. They are possible, your goals are attainable or else you wouldn’t have the desire for them. You are absolutely capable of living the life you’ve always dreamed of. All you have to do is everything you can to make it happen. Believe, set goals, create a plan or action, believe some more, try and fail, believe some more, and there you are.

You’ve got this!

Until Next Time, Beautiful Souls

Mimi Loves You!

Coaching Blog: Born to Be an Optimist

Born To Be an Optimist

Hello Beautiful Souls!

Today, I really wanna talk to you about optimism. Optimism is vital in life, especially adult life. There will be challenges and tough times that are an unavoidable part of life’s journey. A person’s mindset during those tough times heavily influences the impact and outcome of a situation.

“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.“

– Winston Churchill

An optimist, when faced with a problem, tends to find the upside to the situation and starts figuring out ways to solve that problem, or ways to turn it around. A pessimist, however, immediately throws up his hands, and yells, “That’s it; it’s all over. I can’t handle this anymore.” Or he will distance himself from the problem, pretending it doesn’t matter. This is denial, and it never works.

According to the world’s foremost expert on optimism, Dr. Martin Seligman, everyone is born optimistic. And yet, 95% of grownups are pessimists, not optimists. So, what goes wrong? Well, the isn’t one simple answer, but I believe that most people become pessimists because of the way society shapes us to think. We are told what’s practical, what’s acceptable, what’s possible even. The people close to us tell us about their negative experiences and situations, discouraging us all the more. We begin to think that failing is the norm. But this isn’t true at all! Our mindset, whether we or hopeful or doubtful, plays a major part in our success…or our defeat.

If a person feels like something will go well or feels optimistic about it, it usually seems to go well. The same is true of the reverse. When someone feels like something will go badly, it tends to do just that.

An indication that you are dealing with a pessimist is in a simple phrase they will use in stressful situations – “I can’t”. The pessimist is helpless, powerless and it shows in his response. The optimist responds with – “I can”. The optimist is making a conscious choice. Positive, hopeful, and determined.

An optimist prefers to focus on what could go right as opposed to what could go wrong.

Think about the following statements:

Optimists achieve their goals because they never give up.
Optimists attract Success naturally.
Optimists are happier, healthier, and more energetic than pessimists.
Optimists are easier to be around, inspiring people around them to be positive.
Optimists live longer and suffer from fewer and less severe diseases.
Optimists have a higher quality of life.

Which ones do you think are true? These are all probably true just by the fact that optimists’ positive thinking makes challenging situations “not that bad” after all. When you practice having a positive outlook, you are less affected by negativity.

Now true optimism is not sitting back, thinking positive thoughts, and hoping everything will turn out all right. It’s choosing to focus on a positive aspect of the situation or learning a valuable lesson from the ordeal. You face each situation, each problem, and each occasion with a positive attitude; and you always look forward to the “benefits” you will derive from it. You have a choice. “Change your thoughts and change your world,” said Norman Vincent Peale. What it comes down to is that your attitude is a conscious choice. If you choose pessimism, you’re choosing to see the downside of every situation, judge people unfairly, and live unhappily the rest of your life. What an oppressive existence!

On the other hand, if you choose optimism, you’re empowering yourself to see the positive side of each challenge, seeing the good in people, helping them to see the good in life too. Taking action to further improve your own life and living happily with friends and family who care about you. Attracting all good to yourself. Choosing to be more optimistic and positive does not mean you won’t encounter difficult times, trauma, loss, and many challenges. What it does mean is that you will have more power on your side to help you through those tough times. The more elevated your mind state is, the easier it is for you to rise above your circumstances. You’ll bounce back faster and make better choices, rather than letting life just wash over you. You’ll learn to be proactive instead of reactive.

If you’re not naturally optimistic and positive, don’t worry. You can learn how to use your thoughts to change your attitude and emotions. Some days will be challenging, but you can do it. Improving your optimism rate is one of the most important actions you can take to improve your life. It doesn’t come automatically, though. It takes effort. It takes deliberate, conscious awareness of your thoughts and feelings. And then acting on that awareness.

Each time you think a negative thought, stop right there and turn it around to find the positive aspect of the situation. Do this each time and build on it. It will become a habit to be positive and upbeat about your life.

Let’s try this:

Practice your ‘positive thinking’ and your ‘positive feeling’. Give yourself permission to think new thoughts and feel new feelings.

You can be as optimistic that you will attract wealth for the things you want, like a new car or new house. The positive thoughts and brain activity helps to push things to that end, and you will get there.

So, I would say to you: Be Optimistic! Expect the best out of life! Think and Act Optimistically.

Until Next Time, Beautiful Souls!