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How to Reset Your Mindset When Negativity Takes Over

Hey Boo!

If negative thoughts have been a challenge for you this week, you’re not alone.

We’ve all had those moments when our thoughts start looping, replaying the same worries or regrets on repeat. It’s like your mind gets stuck in a rut, and no matter how hard you try, it keeps circling back to the same negative track. This is what psychologists call rumination-and while it’s a normal human habit, it doesn’t have to run your life.

The truth is, you can reset your mindset. It’s not about never having negative thoughts- it’s about knowing how to gently redirect them so you can return to clarity and peace.

Why We Ruminate

Our brains are wired to scan for problems as a way of keeping us safe. That was useful for survival, but at this point in time it has outlived its usefulness. Rumination often causes us to overthink conversations, worry about the future, or relive old hurts. The problem is, rumination drains energy, magnifies stress, and keeps us from moving forward.

Here’s the good news- with awareness and practice, you can stop the spiral.

3 Steps to a Mindset Reset

Pause and Notice

The first step is awareness. When you realize you’re caught in a loop, pause and call it out: “I’m ruminating right now.” Simply noticing the pattern creates a little distance between you and your thoughts.

Breathe and Ground

Your body is your anchor. Take three slow, deep breaths. Feel your feet on the floor. This signals safety to your nervous system and calms the mental storm.

Redirect With Intention

Ask Yourself: “Where would I rather place my focus right now?” Choose something that lifts or steadies you- a gratitude list, a supportive affirmation, or even a small action like taking a walk. The point is to shift from passive replaying to active choice.

Gentle Practices to Help You Reset

Journaling: Write the looping thought down, then reframe it into something more supportive.

Affirmations: Speak kindness to yourself- “I am allowed to move forward. I choose peace over replay.”

Movement: Shake off the stuck energy with a stretch, dance, or walk outside.

Connection: Call a trusted friend or spend time with someone who makes you feel safe and grounded.

Remember: Resetting is a Practice

You don’t have to get it “perfect.’

Negative thoughts will come- it’s part of being human. What matters is how quickly and kindly you guide yourself back. Each time you practice pausing, breathing, and redirecting, you strengthen your ability to reset.

Your mind isn’t the enemy. It just needs a gentle reminder that you are in charge of where your focus goes. And with every reset, you reclaim a little more peace.

You can’t always control the first thought, but you can choose the second. Each reset is a chance to realign with clarity, calm, and compassion.

Til next time Boo.

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Soft Strength: The Power of Being Both Gentle and Unshakable

Hey Boo!

When most people think of strength, they imagine steel walls, unshakable composure, and the ability to push through no matter what. And when they think of softness, they often picture fragility or weakness.

But here’s the truth: real strength isn’t about never bending, and real softness isn’t about breaking. Soft strength is the harmony between a tender heart and an unshakable core. It’s the courage to stay open in a world that sometimes asks us to shut down.

Why Soft Strength Matters

We live in a culture that celebrates hustle, grit, and toughness. Now, don’t get me wrong- those qualities are valid and have their place, but they can leave us disconnected from our humanity if they become our only mode of living.

Soft strength is important because it reminds us that we can be assertive and compassionate, we can set boundaries and stay kind, and more important still- we can cry and still be capable, loving, and powerful.

It’s not about choosing between being gentle or strong- it’s about being both, fully.

Vulnerability as a Form of Courage

Vulnerability isn’t about oversharing or exposing yourself to harm, it’s about showing up as your authentic self, even when there’s a risk of being misunderstood. That’s bravery in its purest form. Every time you tell your truth, ask for help, or admit you don’t have it all figured out, you’re proving that your strength doesn’t depend on pretending- it depends on being honest and authentic.

Resilience with a Soft Heart

Resilience often gets portrayed as bouncing back quickly, but soft strength knows there’s value in moving slowly, in feeling the impact before standing tall again. True resilience means allowing yourself to grieve, rest, and process- not skipping over the discomfort but moving through it with self-compassion.

I’ve learned that my own resilience doesn’t come from ignoring my pain; it comes from acknowledging it and still choosing to move forward. Some of my most courageous moments where I held my boundaries while keeping my heart open, or when I let tears fall but still spoke my truth. That’s the balance of soft strength- open hands, steady feet.

A Challenge for You This Week

Ask Yourself:

-Where can I let myself be a little softer without fear of losing my strength?

-Where can I stand a little taller without closing my heart?

Because when you embrace both, you become unstoppable- not because you can’t be broken, but because you know how to heal and rise again. Remember soft strength doesn’t shout. It doesn’t need to. It radiates from within.

Until next time Boo, keep Glowing…

5 Ways to Reclaim Your Power After Feeling Defeated.

Hey Boo!

There comes a moment- after the heartbreak, the burnout, the betrayal, when you realize that you want your power back.

Your Power. Not the kind of power that dominates or controls. But the quiet, steady, sacred kind. The power to choose, to protect your peace, to speak your truth, and to live in full alignment with who you truly are.

If you’ve ever felt like life has stomped the fire out of you, I want you to know something:

Your power was never gone. It was just waiting for you to remember it.

Here are five ways to begin that journey:

Start with Self Forgiveness

You are not weak for giving others the benefit of the doubt. Or for staying too long. Or for dimming your light in hopes of peace. Forgiveness is how you stop abandoning yourself.

I carried a lot of shame from my marriage because of the things that I allowed him to do- the things that I stayed through. The things I swept under the rug. Once I let go of the past and forgave myself for being who I thought I needed to be at the time, I was able to begin healing and gaining my power back.

Journaling Prompt

What do I need to forgive myself for in order to move forward with grace?

Speak the Truth You Were Silenced from Saying

Reclaiming your power means using your voice even if it shakes. You don’t need to shout. You just need to honor your truth out loud. Despite how others may feel, you have the right to speak your truth. It’s not about being messy, it’s about being authentic.

Affirmation:

My voice matters. My truth is valid.

Reinforce Sacred Boundaries

Boundaries are not walls; they are bridges back to yourself. When you say no to what drains you, you say yes to your power. Your energy is sacred. Use it for things that matter to you- things you prioritize. Own your power with reinforced boundaries.

Glow Tip:

Notice where resentment builds. That’s usually a sign of a boundary needing to be set or strengthened.

Take Small Aligned Actions

Power doesn’t always roar. Sometimes power is choosing to rest when you’d normally push. Power could be going back to school, starting your business, or saying ‘yes’ to a new opportunity. Sometimes power is finally saying, I’m not doing this anymore.

Ask Yourself: What is one small, bold step I can take this week that aligns with who I really am?

Affirm Who You Are-Daily

Your inner dialogue is the soil where power either blooms or withers. Speak life into yourself on purpose.

Try this Affirmation- I reclaim every piece of me I once abandoned to survive. I am whole. I am home.

You don’t need to become someone else to reclaim your power. You just need to return to you. Piece by piece. Day by day. The most powerful version of you is the one that feels like truth.

Until next time Boo, keep Glowing…

Rest Isn’t Lazy- It’s Sacred.

Hey Boo!

There was a time in my life when I didn’t believe I had the right to rest. I equated rest with laziness- a luxury I hadn’t earned yet. I thought if I just push harder, worked longer, or kept showing up no matter how I felt…maybe I’d feel secure. Maybe I’d be “enough.”

A few years ago, while caring for my mother, I lost my job. Out of fear and survival, I poured myself into building my coaching business. I woke up every morning at 5 a.m. and would often work 13-hour days. I told myself if I didn’t hit certain milestones, I didn’t deserve a break. No sleep. No pause. Just pressure.

But then, life forced me to stop. My mother’s health declined rapidly, and the stress of everything began to take its toll. I ended up having a lupus flare- my body shutting down from the weight I had been carrying in silence.

I had no choice but to rest.

And it was in that sacred stillness-not the hustle- that I began to heal.

I found clarity.

I started breathing again.

I began to understand that rest wasn’t weakness. It was wisdom.

Rest isn’t something we earn. It’s something we are entitled to.

Our bodies, our minds, our hearts- they aren’t machines. They whisper to us long before they scream. But we’ve been taught to ignore those whispers in the name of productivity, performance, and pressure.

If you’re in a season where everything feels heavy…

If you’re tired and you’re still telling yourself to “push through” …

If you’re afraid that resting means falling behind- please hear me:

You are not lazy. You are human. And your rest is sacred.

A Gentle Invitation

Ask Yourself:

What would it look like to rest on purpose today?

What could shift if I honored my body’s need to slow down- before it begs me too?

You don’t have to wait until burnout knocks you down to listen. You can choose peace now. Choose softness now. Choose yourself- gently, bravely, and without guilt.

You are worthy of rest, exactly as you are.

With Love,

Mimi

The Lies We Believe: 5 Limiting Beliefs That Keep You Stuck (And How to Rewrite Them)

Hey Boo!

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough” or “I could never do that” -and believed it? You’re not alone by any means.

We all carry beliefs that once helped us survive- but over time, they can quietly turn into walls that keep us small. Sometimes, we’re not even aware we’re holding them.

For me, one of the biggest ones was this:

“I have to overwork myself to prove my worth.”

There was a time I believed that rest had to be earned. That if I wasn’t constantly doing, achieving, or helping someone else, that I wasn’t valuable. That belief followed me for years. It shaped how I showed up- exhausted, resentful, and always reaching.

Until one day, I asked myself:

Who told me that? And why am I still listening?

That was the beginning of my unlearning. And now, I want to help you begin yours.

Let’s talk about 5 limiting beliefs that might be holding you back- and how to start rewriting them, one truth at a time.

Limiting Belief 1. “I’m not enough.”

This is one of the most deeply rooted beliefs- often born from past trauma, comparison, or constantly being told we had to be more, do more, or look a certain way to matter. Try this truth instead: “I am growing, healing, and worthy- exactly as I am.”

You don’t need to earn your worth. You were always enough. Now it’s just about remembering that.

Limiting Belief 2. I don’t deserve good things.

Whether it came from guilt, shame, or someone convincing you that you had to suffer to be strong, this belief can block you from receiving joy, love, and abundance. Try this truth instead: “I deserve peace, pleasure, and goodness- simply because I exist.”

You’re not here to prove anything. You’re here to experience life fully.

Limiting Belief 3. “If I fail, it means I’m not cut out for this.”

This one sneaks in when we tie our worth to our performance or fear judgment. But failure doesn’t mean you’re not meant for it- it just means you’re in it and you’re figuring your way out. Try this truth instead: “Failure is feedback- not a final verdict.”

Every step is a lesson. Keep going.

Limiting Belief 4. “I need permission to follow my dreams.”

Sometimes we wait for someone else to believe in us before we believe in ourselves. But your dreams don’t need outside approval- just your yes. Try this truth instead: “I am my own permission slip.”

You can take the leap. You always could.

Limiting Belief 5. “It’s too late for me.”

This one stings. But here’s the truth: the past is irrelevant, as it no longer exists. What matters is now. And life isn’t on a schedule. Your timing is divine, not delayed. Try this truth instead: “I’m right on time for the life I’m meant to live.”

Start where you are. The next chapter is waiting.

Ready to Rewire? Start Here:

Limiting beliefs lose their power when you name them, challenge them, and replace them. If you’re ready to begin rewiring, let’s start with this prompt:

What limiting belief am I ready to let go of, and what truth will I choose instead?

You don’t have to believe the lies your pain told you.

You get to choose again.

Until next time Boo, keep Glowing…

How to Start Feeling Safe Again In Your Own Mind

Hey Boo!

From personal experience I know that after experiencing trauma and long periods of anxiety, your mind can start to feel like an unsafe place. Like the last place you want to be. Instead of peace, there’s tension. Instead of calm, there’s chaos. You might even avoid quiet moments because that’s when your thoughts scream the loudest.

If you’ve ever felt unsafe in your own mind- you’re not alone. And you’re not broken.

Healing takes time, but it is absolutely possible to build a sense of safety within yourself again. Here are a few ways to begin that journey:

Speak to Yourself Like Someone You Love

When anxiety or fear take over, your inner voice might become harsh or critical. You may find yourself saying things like “Why am I like this?” or “I should be over this by now.”

But what if you responded like you would to a scared child or a hurting friend?

Try this:

“It’s okay to feel scared right now. You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to feel.”

Compassion softens fear. The more you speak gently to yourself, the safer you begin to feel.

Create Anchor Rituals that Ground You

When your thoughts feel scattered or overwhelming, grounding yourself in small, familiar actions can signal safety to your nervous system.

A few simple anchor rituals:

Drinking warm tea while holding the mug with both hands

Saying a calming affirmation in the mirror: “I am safe in this moment.”

Pressing your feet into the floor and naming three things you see, hear, and feel.

                These rituals bring you back to now, where your power is.

Reclaim Control with Gentle Boundaries

Feeling unsafe in your mind is often tied to a deeper feeling of powerlessness. That’s why setting boundaries-even with yourself- can feel empowering.

Examples:

Limiting time around people who drain or invalidate you

Saying “no” to conversations or content that re-trigger you

Creating tech-free quiet hours for mental peace

Every boundary is a message to your brain: You matter. Your peace matters.

Let Your Emotions Move (Don’t Bottle Them Up)

Anxiety and trauma thrive in silence. The more you try to push feelings away, the more trapped you may feel.

Instead, try this:

Cry

Journal

Scribble

Talk to a safe person

Dance to a song that understands you

Letting your emotions move through you keeps them from getting stuck inside you.

Rewire Safety Through Repetition

Healing your mind is like re-teaching it how to trust again. And that takes consistency. Try ending each day with:

A calming ritual (like dimming the lights and doing deep breathing)

A short phrase: “I made it through today. That’s enough.”

Noticing even one moment you felt peace, safety, or softness- even if it was tiny.

Safety doesn’t always come back with a bang. Sometimes, it returns in whispers.

If you’re struggling to feel safe in your own mind, please know this: You are not weak. You are healing from something that shook your core- and that kind of healing takes courage. Keep showing up for yourself. Keep creating little safe spaces within. Over time, those safe spaces become home.

You deserve to feel safe. You always have.

Until next time Boo, keep Glowing…

5 Signs You’re Healing (Even if it Doesn’t Feel Like It)

Hey Boo!

If you’re on a healing journey then you know that healing doesn’t always feel good. Some days, healing feels like breaking. Like going in circles. Like you’re never going to get “there”- wherever there is. I’ve been there more times than I can count.

One thing that I’ve discovered is that healing isn’t always loud. It isn’t always obvious. Sometimes it’s subtle and sacred. It hides in the way you keep going, even when it hurts.

Here are five signs that you’re healing, even if doesn’t feel like it right now:

You’re More Aware of What Triggers You

Before, Things might’ve thrown you into a spiral without warning. Now? You notice. You see the common themes in the situations that put you in a negative space. You’re more aware of your emotional state than you use to be. That awareness is growth. It means your mind is working with you now, not against you. Healing begins with noticing.

You Set Boundaries (Even if it Feels Uncomfortable)

You used to put the comfort of others ahead of your own. You’d be the first to show up for others and the last to show up for yourself. But now, you’ve started saying no, taking up space, and not explaining yourself every time. If you’ve been doing any of those things lately, even awkwardly- you’re healing. You’re learning to protect your peace. Boundaries are an act of healing and self love.

You’re Gentler with Yourself Than You Used to Be

You used to live in this loop of overthinking then beating yourself up, and it was hard for you to forgive yourself. But now you find that you give yourself a bit more grace and forgiveness. That grace and forgiveness is the softness that comes as a result of healing. Self-compassion is quiet, but it changes everything.

You Don’t Chase What Once Broke You

The old relationship, that toxic friend, the bad habit that you always ran to. If you’re choosing yourself and walking away from the things that once hurt you, you’ve shown a great amount of strength. That’s healing. Walking away isn’t weakness, it’s wisdom.

You Still Hope- Even a Little

If you’re here, reading this, trying to feel better… that’s hope. Even when it’s dim. Even when it’s tired. Hope is a sign that somewhere deep down, you believe in the possibility of more. Healing is holding onto hope in the dark.

You may not see your progress, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t happening. Healing isn’t linear. It’s messy and painful and brave. You’re doing better than you think.

Keep Glowing

Silence Your Negative Thoughts

Hey Boo!

Have you ever received a negative comment or had an intrusive thought that sent you on a downward spiral? Well, today I will be sharing my two step process to silence negative thoughts.

Step 1: Question It

The very first thing to do when you have a negative thought or receive a negative comment is question it. Ask yourself, “Is this statement true?” If it was a comment, don’t focus on who said it, how they said it, or why they said it. This will only create a cascade of negative thoughts to help accelerate your downward spiral. Take only the words and do an honest self-evaluation.

If you find the statement to be true, Step 1A is to take accountability for it. The comment or thought is a direct result of your behavior. For example: “That person called me a thief because I stole their car.” As you reflect and take accountability, look for the lesson that can be learned. This is a moment of character development. Take this opportunity to acknowledge where you need to grow and move forward a more improved individual.

After step 1: Question It and step 1a: Take Accountability come step 2: Counter-Attack. The counter attack is necessary so that you don’t ruminate on the negative comment or the mistake you made. Simply put, your counter-attack is to leave the past behind you. Remember that self-reflection and accountability disempower guilt and shame. Once you make a decision to learn and take corrective action, the negative comment or thought is no longer valid because your reality is now different.

But what if you reflected on the comment and it isn’t true or valid at all?

You still use a counterattack to distinguish the negative thought or comment, but your approach is slightly different. The counterattack for a limiting belief or something untrue would go like something like this:

This is not true because of this. (Provide examples for yourself of when you’ve disproved the thought or comment. For example: ‘this person called me a thief, but I’ve never stolen anything in my life. Or, this person called me a thief, but I haven’t stolen anything since I was incarcerated and turned my life around.)

If you can’t think of an example, counterattack with an affirmation that states the opposite. (For example: This person called me a thief but that isn’t true. I am honest, trustworthy, or forthright.)

So Boo, the next time you receive a negative comment, have a negative intrusive thought or limiting belief remember to follow the two-step process:

  1. Question It

1a. Take Accountability

2. CounterAttack

Remember to keep growing and glowing and don’t let the negativity defeat you! Until next time Boo.