Keep Calm

Hello Beautiful Souls! Here are a few tips that can help you relax quickly. Why should you learn how to relax fast? Because stress is more than just unpleasant. It’s also dangerous. Many diseases are now known to be caused by or made worse by stress, but you can do something about it. Just try these relaxation techniques today and use them whenever you feel that tension coming on.

1. Have a hot shower- The hot water relaxes your muscles, and the break from more stressful activities helps too. I find that a water meditation is quite useful as well.

2. Play relaxing music- Experiment to see which music relaxes you the most effectively. Then keep your favorite relaxation playlist handy wherever you’ll need it most. I have a few playlists on youtube and itunes depending on my mood. It works wonders!

3. Go somewhere else- This really helps if the things stressing you out are in the room or associated with it. Why not get out for a little while? Bodies of water are my favorite, but going outside or just leaving the room you’re in will suffice as well.

4. Have a cup of chamomile tea- Chamomile seems to have a calming effect on the nerves, and hot drinks in general can help you relax.

5. Watch your mind- If you can spot the stressors lurking just below the surface (hunger, worry, a phone call you need to make), you can resolve them and feel more relaxed.

6. Have a laugh- Of course, you know from experience that this helps you relax, right? Find the guy that knows all the best jokes, or just find something funny in front of you. In case you’re not in the most funny environment, watch something amusing on your device. Movies with Eddie Murphy in them or an episode of the office almost always make me laugh.

7. Breath deep through your nose- Just close your eyes and pay attention only to your breathing while doing this. Five slow deep breaths is like a mini-meditation.

8. Take a walk- Walking is one of the best relaxation techniques if you have at least ten minutes to spare. Find a pretty place to walk while you’re at it.

9. Give someone a hug- As long as it’s from somebody you don’t mind hugging, this really can be very relaxing.

10. Interrupt your routine- Stop to talk to that guy sleeping on the bench or eat lunch on the roof, at the park, or outdoors. Anything that breaks you out of your habitual patterns can relieve stress.

Over time you can change to be more relaxed.  In the meantime, the relaxation techniques above really aren’t difficult, so why not try a few, and learn how to relax fast?

Until next time Beautiful Souls, keep Glowing…

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Hello Beautiful Souls!

To those of you who have never felt lost (you should be immensely grateful by the way) this may seem like a strange topic to you. On the surface it seems an odd idea that you could actually be anything other than who you really are.  But from the time we can talk, we’re being programmed to “fit in”.  We find ourselves conforming in order to please the people we love, and who love us.

But sometimes appeasing the people you love means that you have to suppress what you know is the real person inside. We often make these sacrifices for different relationships, forgetting that the relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll ever have.  Without a healthy relationship with yourself, it’s practically impossible to have healthy relationships with anyone else. 

If you’re ready to get reacquainted with someone you haven’t seen in a while – you – start with these 4 ideas to help you rediscover the real you. 

• Quiet the noise in your head

You know those voices well, the ones that are constantly nagging you to pick up the dry cleaning, talk to the schoolteacher, juggle the bills, schedule the vet, cook dinner, keep the boss happy.  With all that noise going on, it will be impossible for you to hear the thoughts and ideas that’ll lead to genuine happiness.  This MUST be the first step.  How do you do that?  By setting up systems, simplifying, and establishing enough extras in your life to allow you to operate from a position of abundance, instead of lack.

• Practice thinking about yourself in healthy ways

In order to do that, you must first believe that you are valuable, and your Real Self has something to offer the world.  Since you talk to yourself more than everyone else in your life combined –that’s a lot of talk! —it’s up to YOU to establish healthy communication in your thinking.  Consciously listen to how you talk to yourself; write down the unhealthy things you say, challenge them; and replace them with facts. Self-Talk: “You never do anything right.”  Challenge: “Of course I do things right.  I did (example) right.  I did (example) right.  This time, I just made a mistake.  I’ll learn from it and have better success next time.” 

• Listen to your heart

Sounds easy enough, but by the time we’re adults, most of us have stopped listening to our hearts and go only with our heads. Our hopes and dreams have become foolish ideas; quiet whispers.  The heart and mind must reconnect in order to find your real self.  It’s easy to become accustomed to thinking about your feelings instead of really feeling them.  Instead of asking yourself what you think about something, ask how it makes you feel and why it’s important. 

• Be careful not to get hung-up on a specific goal

What you’re really after is fulfillment — respect, love, appreciation, abundance, time freedom – as opposed to superficial things that give an impression of success.  Keep an open mind to the feelings and be willing to adjust the methods you use to achieve them. This is not to say that goal setting isn’t important- on the contrary. Setting a goal and taking action starts you on the path to success. Just don’t be too rigid in how your goal gets accomplished. When setting goals, focus on how it satisfies who you really are.  You’ll feel the freedom of authenticity and your real self will come shining through. 

The genuine person you can know and love is waiting for you to take the time to listen, understand, and accept.  When you accept your Real Self again, you’ll make smarter choices, and those choices will stick because they actually fit who you are.  Now, that’s what you’re really looking for, isn’t it?

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Go to http://www.glowwithmimi.com to sign up before the first 10 or before September 21 when the promotion ends! (9/21/23)

Until next time beautiful souls, keep glowing…

Hello Beautiful Souls!

In this day and age, we are so inundated with choice and opportunity that you might even say we are spoiled by our over-abundance of choices. Everyone seems to take pride in having options. There is just so much that we could do, we often end up not doing anything at all. Procrastination is one of the biggest dream killers. In a world where there is so much demand for your attention, it is becoming ever more difficult to stay focused and act on the things that would truly give you an extraordinary quality of life. Time is, was, and always will be your most valuable asset and the way you use it will determine what you create or fail to create with and for your life. Having an effective strategy for overcoming procrastination is critical if you truly want to push past short-term obstacles to create a life of fulfilment.

The intricacies of modern life tend to overwhelm us, which leads to an emotional overload that will distract you and scatter your effort and concentration. There simply isn’t enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time for the most important things in your life. Success at anything in life, whether it be your finances, your relationships, or your body, requires an investment of time and effort from you. You need to focus and concentrate your physical and emotional resources on creating a desired result.

The first step in overcoming procrastination is to get clear on what exactly you want from every area of your life. This clarity will give you the power to look past distractions that may throw you off course. It gives you a direction and a target which will help to build a mental picture for your life. One of the most destructive effects of procrastination is that it makes you feel out of control. If you don’t know what you want it is all too easy to jump from one task to the next. Apart from knowing what you want you should also develop some strong reasons why you want it. This will give you a sense of purpose and motivation that is critical for staying focused long term.

One of the most powerful strategies for overcoming procrastination is to learn how to break your tasks up into bite size pieces. Any task, no matter how big, can be broken down into small manageable tasks that are easy to do. If you focus on climbing Mount Everest it will probably put you off immediately, but if you focus on climbing seven small mountain sections it becomes more possible in your mind to do. The power of chunking down your “big” tasks empowers you to take back control of any overwhelming situation – you cut it down to size. Your size.

One of the quickest ways to overcome procrastination is to learn and utilize the power of immediacy. What can you do immediately? What action can you take right now that will move you closer to your goal? Doing something, no matter how small, will immediately break your mental pattern of procrastination and put you back in control. Taking the first step, even if it is small, will create momentum and you will almost automatically be driven to take another step. Don’t wait for everything to be perfect before you take the first step. Just do it. Just get it going. Often you will only know what to do next after taking that first step.

There are many strategies and skills you can use for overcoming procrastination. You don’t have to be stuck or spinning your wheels. Like any skill you need to learn and practice it until you get good at it. Eventually it will become an automatic response and you will develop the habit of taking action despite your fears or perceived limitations.

For more tips on how to beat procrastination, check out my ebook 101 Tips for Avoiding Procrastination. It is available for purchase on my website www.glowwithmimi.com in the personal development hub.

If you or someone you know has experienced Narcissistic or Emotional Abuse and needs help with clarity and goal setting, send me a message or book a free consultation to discuss a plan of action.

Until next time Beautiful Souls, keep Glowing…

Hello Beautiful Souls!

This is definitely something that I needed to reflect on and remind myself of, so I wanted to share it with you. So, without any further ado, here are the eight steps to achieve any goal.

1. Know exactly what you want

This may sound obvious but unless you know exactly what you want, how can you achieve it? The more details, numbers, dates you can plan the better. You need a very clear focus of what you do want in order to receive it. If possible, visualize, or develop a vivid mental picture of what you want. Make it like a movie or daydream with as many details as possible.

2. Write down your goals

This is one technique that sorts out the people who succeed and the people who fail. We are constantly reminded how important it is to write down your goals yet very very few of us do it. Writing down goals more adequately dedicates them to memory and creates a bit of a command to your brain. According to research you are 95% more likely to achieve your goal if it is written down. Enough said. Do it!

3. Believe

If you try and achieve a goal that you don’t truly believe in, your subconscious mind will not allow you to achieve it. You’ll only succeed in tearing yourself up inside. As Napoleon Hill said, “Whatever the mind of a man can conceive and believe, it can achieve”. To increase your belief, try writing down a list of reasons why you are capable of this goal. If you can only think of one reason to start, repeat that one reason to yourself until you build more confidence.

4. Remind yourself constantly of the goal

The more you repeat it to your subconscious mind, the more it will be programmed in. There are a variety of techniques you can use including repeating affirmations or using subliminal software. If you spend a lot of time on your computer I recommend using software that flashes messages on your screen that only the subconscious can pick up.

5. Be passionate about your goal

You’re far more likely to achieve your goal if it excites you. Think about all the benefits to you once you have achieved your goal. Imagine how you would feel, how would your life be different.

6. Break it down into bite size chunks

If you have really big goals then great. The only way you’ll be big is to think big. However sometimes you may need to break it down into smaller intermediate goals. It makes it easier for you to believe it’s possible and it helps you organize yourself on a short, medium and long term.

7. Reward yourself along the way

Every Time you have some success make sure you reward yourself. It will help keep the desire and enthusiasm burning. It will also tell your subconscious mind you’re achieving your goals.

8. Stay positive at all times

Ultimately the only person who can stop you achieving your goals is YOU. Fear and self doubt are common enemies but are only created in your mind. You must also make sure that you are concentrating on what you do want, not what you don’t want. From time you may not feel positive and that’s okay. Acknowledge the negative emotion, break it down and redirect your thoughts so that you get back on a positive wavelength. Take a few deep breaths, reaffirm your goals and continue to push forward.

Remember the only way you will fail is if you give up.

I hope that this was a helpful reminder for you to keep striving for the beautiful life that your deserve. It is attainable. Don’t give up on yourself!

Until next Time Beautiful Souls, keep Glowing…

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Hello Beautiful Souls!  

Want a better life? Big changes are difficult, and take time, but there are many easy steps you can take right now. Take many steps, even small ones, and pretty soon you’re getting somewhere.

A Better Life Today

It’s easy just to look, right? Start looking for specific ways to make your life better, and to improve yourself. Even if you don’t accomplish anything immediately, you are preparing yourself. Thinking about change sets your mind and your motivation in motion.

You’re not looking for an excuse to avoid difficult tasks, but you wouldn’t expect to quit cigarettes, alcohol, caffeine and complaining all at once, right? Just make things better today, in any small way. Seeing results will motivate you for the more difficult steps. Consider some of the following simple actions.

1. Write down some things you’d like to change. This makes the possibility more real, and gets your mind working. Eventually you can make this “wish list” into real goals, with a specific plan.

2. Close your eyes and breathe deeply through your nose, whenever you feel stressed. Stress is one of the biggest impediments to a better life. Simple stress-management techniques like this can help a lot if you make them a habit.

3.  List the good things you’ve got. This may seem trite, but a good mood makes life better. Ever buy a van and start seeing vans everywhere? The same thing happens when you buy an idea. Imagine how it will affect your frame of mind to start seeing good things everywhere.

I could go on, but I don’t know what your goals and needs are. The point here is to get you thinking, and then taking whatever actions you can. If you thought about the whole process, you might never build a house, but it’s easy to nail one board in place, right? (And then one more, and one more…)

If you’d like to talk about goal setting, you can schedule a free consultation with me. Click the link: https://glow-with-mimi.square.site

Until Next time beautiful souls, keep Glowing…

Hello Beautiful Soul! Have you ever felt like you had way too much on your plate?  I most certainly have. In fact, many people go through their daily lives feeling overwhelmed. There are so many things to do and there never seems to be enough time or energy to do them all. Is this how you feel about your business, career, or life?

Have you promised yourself that this month you are going to make some serious changes but you just aren’t sure what those changes need to be?

Think about laying out a vision but make it a big vision. One that encompasses your passion in life and the gifts you have come to share. No matter what the focus of your business or career you have a lot to offer. You are unique and only you can contribute your strengths in your special way. Whether it’s staying at home and raising a family, making the best widget there is, the CEO of a company, etc. life is not a dress rehearsal so create your vision of what you really want and then take inspired action steps to attract it to you.

These are the same steps I take myself and with clients to help make the changes in focus and habit that bring meaningful results. First you must be willing to take action.

Without changing your focus and habits you will never be able to change the results.

Without taking action you will never move forward and reach the results you want. You are responsible for your momentum; it will be up to you to take the actions on your own unless you choose to have the support, encouragement, guidance, and accountability that a coach provides. Coaching is about getting results; listening to what the client really wants and working together, setting out the measurable steps to be taken that result in action and success.

Without the forward momentum and inspired actions it’s just a good thought. In order for your business to be successful, to be happy and fulfilled in your career, or prosperous and content in your life you need to have one common theme- Vision.

The process of creation starts with a thought, a great idea, a passionate want, or a dream of something magnificent to achieve. These are the intangible sparks that ignite our drive to move forward and turn the intangible into our reality.

Begin by brainstorming on paper, yes you must write it down to bring clarity, to make it real.

The first brainstorming session should be free flowing, don’t edit your thoughts or ideas. If you are working on your personal vision and your work vision to define what you want and how you want to spend your time, start with the personal vision.

This will give you absolute clarity about what is important to you, what you want, what are the things in your life you are passionate about and that make you feel fulfilled. From there you can create the vision of your ideal business or career and take action to bring what you really want into your life. Focus on what you really want, be very specific. Don’t just say you want lots of money, a nice home and no stress. Create a picture in your mind of exactly what you want down to the color of the carpet and the list of clients, and then using words draw that picture until your vision is clear.

 For example:

I want a profitable and fulfilling life coaching business.

I want to see clients in three different specialties plus passive income revenue streams.

I will work five days a week between noon and six devoting the rest of the day to self-care, gardening, exercising, and spending time with family and friends.

I will make 100,000 a year and take 5 weeks vacation throughout the year.

I love to learn so I will spend 3 weeks a year in educational workshops and training programs to advance my career and myself.

I have workbooks, & learning products that fit into my personal and vision statement providing my clients excellent value and tools that help them to get on track with their lives.

These products are very rewarding to me because I am able to help people regardless of their income level. Making a contribution and improving people’s lives is very important to me so this is always something I carry out in my business practices.

I avoid stress by focusing on the positive and focusing my energy on the things that are really important to me and just let the rest go. I don’t always succeed at this but when I fall short, I redirect and refocus on what serves me and what I have control over.

You create what you put your energy into. If you concentrate on all the things you don’t want, on all the things you don’t have enough of, that is what you will create more of. Start creating what you do want.

Start with your vision; clearly lay out your life, career, and business vision and then take the steps to make it your reality.

Remember that anything that you want is attainable if you focus, set goals and have a clear vision.

Until Next time Beautiful Souls, keep Glowing…

For some get up and go!

Hello Beautiful Souls!

Need a pick-me-up? Good. Because today we’re going to talk about different ways to boost our energy. Fatigue and a lack of energy have been problems for me a lot in life. Whether it was long hours in the navy on deployment, motherhood, or fatigue from my battle with lupus, finding the energy oftentimes has been an arduous task. I’ve asked experts, who often told me things to the effect of, ‘considering your lifestyle/situation, this is quite normal.’ But I wasn’t satisfied with that. I wanted to find way to give myself energy so that I could pursue my goals and dreams.

Sometimes tiredness can’t be helped but there are things I can do to alleviate it. Below are some energy boosters that have worked for me and others over the years. Try them to see which works best for you and use more than one at a time if necessary.

1. Energetic music

Different types of music have different effects on us, but you can learn which are best for you by trial and error. Once you find the music that wakes you up, keep it ready.

2. Sleep

It is recommended that we get 6-8 hours of sleep per night. Try drinking something warm before bed or relax with a simple meditation.

3. Talk about something interesting

Have you ever seen a tired person start to talk about something they’re passionate about, and suddenly “wake up.” It’s a powerful technique you can use for yourself. Have a few “favorite” subjects that get you going.

4. Coffee

For some of us, caffeine makes us more tired when it’s abused, but short-term, it can work wonders.

5.  Deep breathing

Several slow deep breaths help oxygenate the blood supply better, and especially seems to wake up the brain.

6. Move your body

Sometimes just getting up and washing the dishes, or walking around the house helps boost energy levels.

7. Exercise

t’s not a quick solution, but many people notice an increase in their energy level when they get regular aerobic exercise.

8. Hot and cold shower

Try a minute of hot water, then a minute of cold, alternating for six minutes. This isn’t for those with weak hearts, but it will wake you up. Incidentally, research shows that this also revs up the immune system.

9. Get outside

Often, a little sunshine and fresh air can be very energizing.

This last one, I suggest as a last resort.

10. Have an energy drink

There are mixed reviews on most of them, but it’s a cheap option to try. I used to drink energy drinks religiously but was scolded by my doctor and have heard some disturbing stories on what can happen when you drink too many of them.

Well,  that’s all I have for you today. See you next Thursday!

Until next time beautiful souls, keep glowing…