Balance

Hi beautiful souls!

As I discover myself anew of this spiritual journey; I realize more and more how important balance is. I just wanted to share a few thoughts on the importance of balance.

Life is about balance. You can’t be completely selfish just as you can’t be completely selfless. If you’re selfish; then you’re constantly taking. Often to the detriment of others. Taking and storing. Taking and storing. And eventually, you fill your vessel to its capacity.

And then what happens?

You become stagnant. There’s a stench. It starts to smell because some of what you continue to hold on to has become useless to you. It’s wasting away.

It now belongs to someone else but you won’t release it. “What about me? What about me? What about me?” Until you’re completely full. You can’t take on any new information or learn any new gifts because you haven’t cultivated anything but yourself. There’s no flow.

On the other hand, if you’re completely selfless, you give and give and give. But then, what becomes of you? You are now ill nourished, miserable, weak, nonfunctional, dried up and probably even bitter because you gave of your entire self without being refilled. You feel used. You have nothing else to give now. There’s no flow. We all need flow. We need that constant movement and exchange of energy to be our best selves. We need balance.

This I know from experience because I was a giver. I would give to spouses, lovers, and boyfriends thinking that they would see how wonderful I was and give back. When they didn’t give back, or didn’t give back equally- it hurt me to my core. Until I met someone else. I was in a self destructive cycle.

I gave and gave until one day I looked around and saw what little there was left of myself. This journey helped me see what I was doing to myself and what I was allowing…

But now I break free!

I share my vulnerability in the hope that it will reach and help someone before they experience this pain. Or perhaps you’re in a similar situation, and this piece may be used to enlighten you and remind you of how wonderful you are- with or without the validation of another person.

Either way; I hope this helps someone.

Until next time beautiful souls… 💜✨ Mimi

Keep Smiling

It may seem hard to do right now, with everything that’s going on in the world- but keep smiling.

My heart goes out to all that have been diagnosed with the Coronavirus; and I grieve with those that have lost loved ones… While I don’t know anyone personally who has gone through this; to me, that’s irrelevant. My sense of humanity, my heart hurts when I think of all the lives lost. This is serious!

Because of the seriousness of this situation; I leave my property as little as possible. My husband, out of concern, has heavily suggested that I stay inside as much as possible.

You see, I’m one of those people with a ‘weakened immune system.’ I was diagnosed with Lupus in 2003. And the news of this virus; to be honest, shook me to my core. I literally cried- thinking that I would contract the virus and die. But I couldn’t live that way. I had to shake the fear off!

I decided to choose happiness and productivity over fear and boredom. I am now taking this time to continue working on my personal development. Months before this virus impacted the US, I invested in my education. So, as I sit in wait; I am making myself a more marketable asset. I’m taking typing, learning languages, brushing up on my Microsoft office skills, etc.

That being said, the best thing to do in times like these is to focus on the positive. As long as you’re alive; you are blessed! And there are things you can do while you wait at home for the virus to be subdued. You can find a hobby, write a book, take online classes, make and sell arts and crafts, increase your online presence and communicate that way, rekindle damaged relationships, read…

Believe me when I say; “I am practicing what I preach!” I am telling you to keep smiling because that’s what I told myself. And it’s working. I am working on me. Dieting, exercising, learning, definitely cleaning and disinfecting, sheltering in place, and searching intently for the silver lining each day.

We- as a nation- will be okay. Things may look a little grim at times but this world will be alright.

Beware of the whirlwind

Ladies! I’m sure you’ve seen it- it’s in the books we read, and the movies and shows we watch are saturated in it: whirlwind romances.

The hardworking, underrated beauty gets stuck in the elevator with her spoiled, rich, handsome, (yet somehow still single) boss and lightning strikes!

Or the witty, feisty, event planner lands a contract for an awesome guy who’s engaged to a total…let’s say ‘witch’, who reveals her true intentions in perfect timing to foil her own agenda and allow this event planning underdog to swoop in and be the answer to all the dreams he never knew he had– and the event planner and Mr. Awesome get married instead.

Days later.

Ladies, you have seen it! And I’m sure you have too fellas- your wife, ex-girlfriend or someone in your life has roped you into watching something with a very similar story line. And you shake your head in disbelief while wondering if your IQ has dropped a few points.

I understand.

But this is what we love to watch.

And I speak for myself when I divulge the reason why: because it’s not real!

The reality of it is, the hardworking, underrated, beauty might get stuck in the elevator with her spoiled, rich boss. True enough.

But in reality; the boss either ignores her completely because they are of two totally different socioeconomic statuses. Or she only thought that lightning struck. They go back to his place where she becomes just another notch on his bedpost. A few months later, she quits or gets fired when she meets his wife or fiancé at the company Christmas party.

You already know what happens to the event planner, don’t you? Nothing. She continues to plan the event because he does in fact marry the witch that’s no good for him. The event planner sulks for a week or two while listening to love songs and imagining what could’ve been. Event planner runs into Mr. Awesome five years later and he is a divorcée with twice the kids and half the money he had before.

They try to rekindle the flame they once had, but Mr. Awesome now has trust issues and isn’t quite over his ex wife. On top of that, event planner “is really focused on her career right now “.That’s really just lonely woman code for ‘I dated a few jerks and it didn’t work out, so now I’m jaded.’ They have sex a couple of times and secretly blame each other for it not working out.

Who wants to watch that?!

Reality bites enough sometimes. I don’t know about you, but I watch movies and tv to get away from reality a little bit. That is why I watch romantic comedies and the like. I want to see the underdog win.

That is why I say; “beware of the whirlwind.” Because in real life, most people are cautious. They don’t jump into life-long commitments with people they met a week ago. So, if a person tries to “romantic comedy ” you; dig a little. Meet his or her family. Talk to their friends. Don’t “Jessica Fletcher ” them, but be careful.

Because only Fools Rush In. (Another romantic comedy.)

Be blessed, be free, be true to yourself.