Have Fun/Enjoy Life

Hello beautiful souls 💖

Growth and personal development are topics that we speak of often. But…what about fun? It seems that as we age, we leave the concepts of fun and adventure behind us as if they are only reserved for the young.

As we grow into adulthood and load more responsibility onto our plates, we find that we have no room for fun.

Adulthood is about being serious and taking care of business. Or, at least that’s what I thought. So, I went about the business of adulting… I took care of my spouse, our home, our children. I paid bills, the mortgage, and such. My life became a list of obligations instead of a gift to enjoy. I was made aware of “my job” as a female adult and I didn’t deviate from that.

Then one day; about seven months ago my life changed and I had suddenly lost most of the things that I was so serious about. I was left alone to piece my life back together.

For quite a while, all I did was work and go home. I worked, I went home, I paid bills, and went to sleep so that I could go to work again.

My morale began to sink. I was grateful for my job and the ability to provide for myself and my little family. But there was something missing.

It was fun. Fun was missing!

I began to make friends at work and they started inviting me out. And there it was. The fun that I had been missing.

My friends and I preparing for a night out 😉

It took me a while but I finally realized that life is about enjoyment and love. All the things that we do should be based on enjoyment and love because that’s the beauty and purpose of the human experience.

I know that every minute of every day can’t be fun, but we all deserve to enjoy life. Remember to schedule some fun into your life. Don’t get too busy to smile, laugh, and make memories.

Until next time beautiful souls

Use the Power of Choice to Discover your Purpose!

Hello beautiful souls 💖

Do you wonder what your purpose in life is? Do you grow weary of drifting through life feeling unfulfilled? If you feel that way, you aren’t alone.

Determining what our purpose is in life can be one of the hardest questions that we as humans must try to answer. In this blog, we will explore our feelings and options, and by the end, we should have a fairly solid tool to help give our lives a more meaningful direction!

There are three steps to the process of discovering the purpose of your life:

1. Understanding the Principle of Choice.

2. Creating your ‘Underlying Principle’

3. Aligning your Life with this Underlying Principle

Understanding the Principle of Choice

Norman Vincent Peale has this to say about the Power Of Choice: “The greatest power we have is the power of Choice. It is an actual fact, that if you have been groping under unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous instead. And, by effort, lift yourself into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have courage. The whole trend and the quality of anyone’s life is determined by the choices that are made.”

Choosing is the most important activity of our minds, because by making a choice, we are proclaiming our desires to the subconscious mind. Once the subconscious mind gets to know our desires, it does everything in its power to manifest those desires in our lives. The things the we choose become goals to the subconscious mind. And if we are sincere in pursuing them, there is no reason why we would not accomplish those goals.

Naturally then, it’s reasonable to deduce that indecision prevents us from accomplishing our goals. It not only creates frustration and anxiety; but indecision confuses the subconscious mind about what we want. That is not at all to suggest making snap decisions or behaving impulsively. We should always follow our intuition and make decisions that are in accordance to our true desires and purpose.

A lot of us let others make choices for us, or make choices according to societal norms or cultural stereotypes. Sometimes we make these choices even though they go against our own wishes. We must not make our life decisions based on the desires of other people. What is right for one individual may not be right for another, and the way to know what’s right for you is to listen to what your heart says.

So, to begin the process, make a list of things that interest you. Add things you’ve always enjoyed, things that make you feel better, that inspire you, etc.

Whatever it is that interests you, write it down and answer these questions:

What thing do you love to do?

What is it that you love about that thing, and why?

How could you do this for money, and make a living out of it?

Creating your Underlying Principle

The next step is to examine the list you made and find out if there is a recurring theme. Then, take the central theme of the things you love to do, and try to put it in a short and precise statement. This will be your Mission Statement. It could be a quote by a famous person, or a philosophy that has influenced you. The mission statement doesn’t have to be permanent; it can grow and change as you do. Go ahead and write down your Mission Statement 🙂

Aligning your Life with Your Underlying Principle

Now that you have your Mission Statement, it’s time to map out the path to your ultimate purpose. By implementing small changes and remaining consistent to them, you will begin living out your underlying principle each and every day. By becoming aware and intentional of this underlying principle of your life, you will certainly start to feel the difference in your enthusiasm for life as a whole. Create time and space to bring the things on your list into your life. If you find that you like being in nature, plan a camping trip or visit a national park.

You could even change professions or start a business that more closely aligns with your Mission.

So..there it is!

By following the steps mentioned above, you will be on your way to finding and living out your purpose. And as you go through this process, always remember that –

“You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously. ” – Steve Maraboli

Until next time beautiful souls 💖

You Can Do ANYTHING!

Hello Beautiful Souls 💖

I won’t be before you long- as I’ve heard many men of the cloth say but it was never true. 🤣

I just want to take a few moments to encourage some and remind others of this undisputable fact:

You can do ANYTHING you set your mind to do.

That is an actual fact. Think about that. Understand it. You can literally do anything you set your mind to.. as soon as you take the limits off of yourself. Anything.

Because when you set your mind that means that you are locked in. You are diligent, and you are focused on this thing. You apply time and energy to this thing daily.

And when you do that- the roadblocks crumble.

The obstacles move, and you formulate a way to do that thing in your mind.

And then you go do it. Then, you come back to step one. You focus on something else. Set your mind on it and repeat the process over again.

You can do anything.

So…what are you gonna do?

Feel free to comment and let me know what you plan to do!

Until next time, beautiful souls 💖

Try New Things

Hi!

I just wanted to share some things that have been on my mind lately.

First, I want to acknowledge Pride Month because I feel like people should be able to love who they want to love. They should be able to be themselves authentically.

I want to acknowledge Juneteenth because I’m a black woman and I wouldn’t be where I am without it. I also feel that freedom is a right and not a privilege.

And last, but not least, I want to acknowledge Father’s Day. This was the first time that I was not able to hug my father or call him and tell him happy Father’s Day. To all the father’s out there- you are loved, you are valuable.

And now that I have addressed those things, I just want to say: go for it!

If you find yourself wanting to do or try things that you usually wouldn’t- go for it! Do it. Live out loud! Smile even though your teeth aren’t perfect. Sing, dance, love!

Rediscover yourself.

That’s what I’ve been doing lately and it’s been really rewarding. I’ve always enjoyed writing. And learning. But since I’ve been on this journey of enlightenment, self confidence, and self discovery; I find myself wanting to draw, color and paint.

I took animation in high school (many moons ago lol) and it was pretty cool. But after I took the classes, I didn’t draw anything. And now here I am, drawing again. I’m not great at it but I enjoy it. And that’s what it’s about.

Life is about enjoyment. We work and pay bills to maintain our livelihoods, but enjoyment is key.

Here’s one of my sketches that I outlined. And until next time; much love. Be blessed. And be free! 💜