Be Impeccable with Your Word!

Hello beautiful souls 💖

Today, I just wanted to touch bases with you and remind you of the power of your words. As humans, we have been gifted with a power that no other creature on earth has: we are able to speak.

This is a gift and with our words we can build or tear down, bless someone or curse them.

We as people can sometimes be brazen when we speak to others. Sometimes we get angry and say the first thing that comes to our minds without any regard to the damage that we may cause.

I just finished reading an awesome book called The Four Agreements. If you haven’t read it; I recommend that you do.

The First Agreement of the four is Be Impeccable with Your Word. I define impeccable as ‘on point’, deliberate, careful, intentional. According to the book, impeccable quite literally means “without sin.” To be impeccable with your word means to speak carefully and be sure to not “sin” against yourself or others.

When we speak negative words or things with ill intent, we literally send out poison to ourselves and the people around us. These words can create strongholds or agreements that we are obligated to live by until the agreement is broken.

For Example: A single mother is tired after a long day of work. All she wants to do is take off her shoes and relax, but she just found out that her son got involved in a situation at school that requires her attention. She goes and picks up her son from school and they head home. During the ride, the frustrated mother tells her son that he’s a really bad kid and that he always causes problems.

The little boy accepted his mother’s words as factual. He has now made an agreement with himself that he is a really bad kid that always causes problems. Ten years later, the little boy is in high school. He often receives disciplinary action at school and is on the verge of being expelled. His mother doesn’t understand why her son behaves this way.

It was her words that presented a verbal contract and without knowing any better, the little boy accepted it. He has an agreement- an obligation to always cause problems just as his mother said all those years ago. This will continue unless the boy accepts a different agreement. It takes work, but agreements can be broken.

Wouldn’t it just be better if we mind our mouths from the beginning?

Well…we don’t have the beginning. It’s gone forever. But we do have now. We can be kinder now. We can be loving now. We can be intentional now.

We can be impeccable with our word now.

Until next time beautiful souls 💖

We are PEOPLE!

It’s been over a month since my last blog, because my heart has been really heavy. I wasn’t going to weigh in on current protests or outcries on this forum because I plan on writing a book to address these issues. But, suffice it to say that my emotions are bubbling over to the point where I need to let it out before I release my book. So here goes:

Racial injustice: It’s been going on for centuries with what seems to be no end in sight.

The mistreatment of black people is not a new concept. My heart bleeds for my people. Black lives do matter- and if you respond “all lives matter” whether aloud or in your head when you hear or see this phrase; then yes, YOU are part of the problem!!

“Black Lives Matter” is not a movement to say or otherwise imply that the lives of other races don’t matter. It’s simply a way of saying, “We matter too. Please stop slaughtering us as if we don’t!!” In most cases, when a person responds “All lives matter.” It is a callous remark that doesn’t really mean what the words suggest. It’s just another way of saying, “yeah yeah. We hear ya. Now shut up about it!”

But silence will get us nowhere. Black people are being slain at an alarming rate. What’s more; we are being killed by “trusted” officials that are placed in the position to withhold the law. Black women, black men, and black children. Children!

And the murders largely go unpunished. And when you add this to slavery, the rapes of many female slaves, deliberately separating families and breeding humans like they’re animals, feeding our babies to alligators, indentured servitude, segregation, (traveling while black was actually a thing) prevention of loan approvals for homes (which only ended in the 1960’s) and whatever else…hell, it’s no wonder we as black people feel like we don’t matter!

Can you blame us?!

Here’s an illustration: Chickens are protesting being slaughtered for food. They are fed up! They’ve gathered together, putting aside their differences, to address the overwhelming amount of chickens being killed for human consumption. “Chickens lives matter! Chickens lives matter!” They chant outside of foster farms. But no one cares! They’re being ignored. To add insult to injury, even more chickens are slaughtered. Everyone is more focused on the fashion of the protest than the purpose of it. And now, there’s a group of pigeons near them protesting their protest! “All birds matter! All birds matter!” The pigeons counter defiantly. And while it’s true that they all matter; a pigeon is far less likely to be slaughtered for human consumption, now isn’t it??

But we are not chickens. Not animals at all. We are people! And we matter. Not just black people, but ALL people that are being treated unjustly!

Hispanic people in cages…they matter!!

Indigenous people disappearing without a trace…they matter!!

LGBTQ+ 🏳️‍🌈 people being denied medical rights…they matter!!

People of color, people with different beliefs, different hair, different skin. We are people and we ALL MATTER!

We matter.

We matter.

We matter.

Why can’t you see that we matter?!

Let your heart reflect the love that you yourself would want to be shown.

Love and Light- Mimi 💜💔

Keep Smiling

It may seem hard to do right now, with everything that’s going on in the world- but keep smiling.

My heart goes out to all that have been diagnosed with the Coronavirus; and I grieve with those that have lost loved ones… While I don’t know anyone personally who has gone through this; to me, that’s irrelevant. My sense of humanity, my heart hurts when I think of all the lives lost. This is serious!

Because of the seriousness of this situation; I leave my property as little as possible. My husband, out of concern, has heavily suggested that I stay inside as much as possible.

You see, I’m one of those people with a ‘weakened immune system.’ I was diagnosed with Lupus in 2003. And the news of this virus; to be honest, shook me to my core. I literally cried- thinking that I would contract the virus and die. But I couldn’t live that way. I had to shake the fear off!

I decided to choose happiness and productivity over fear and boredom. I am now taking this time to continue working on my personal development. Months before this virus impacted the US, I invested in my education. So, as I sit in wait; I am making myself a more marketable asset. I’m taking typing, learning languages, brushing up on my Microsoft office skills, etc.

That being said, the best thing to do in times like these is to focus on the positive. As long as you’re alive; you are blessed! And there are things you can do while you wait at home for the virus to be subdued. You can find a hobby, write a book, take online classes, make and sell arts and crafts, increase your online presence and communicate that way, rekindle damaged relationships, read…

Believe me when I say; “I am practicing what I preach!” I am telling you to keep smiling because that’s what I told myself. And it’s working. I am working on me. Dieting, exercising, learning, definitely cleaning and disinfecting, sheltering in place, and searching intently for the silver lining each day.

We- as a nation- will be okay. Things may look a little grim at times but this world will be alright.