Use the Power of Choice to Discover your Purpose!

Hello beautiful souls 💖

Do you wonder what your purpose in life is? Do you grow weary of drifting through life feeling unfulfilled? If you feel that way, you aren’t alone.

Determining what our purpose is in life can be one of the hardest questions that we as humans must try to answer. In this blog, we will explore our feelings and options, and by the end, we should have a fairly solid tool to help give our lives a more meaningful direction!

There are three steps to the process of discovering the purpose of your life:

1. Understanding the Principle of Choice.

2. Creating your ‘Underlying Principle’

3. Aligning your Life with this Underlying Principle

Understanding the Principle of Choice

Norman Vincent Peale has this to say about the Power Of Choice: “The greatest power we have is the power of Choice. It is an actual fact, that if you have been groping under unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous instead. And, by effort, lift yourself into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have courage. The whole trend and the quality of anyone’s life is determined by the choices that are made.”

Choosing is the most important activity of our minds, because by making a choice, we are proclaiming our desires to the subconscious mind. Once the subconscious mind gets to know our desires, it does everything in its power to manifest those desires in our lives. The things the we choose become goals to the subconscious mind. And if we are sincere in pursuing them, there is no reason why we would not accomplish those goals.

Naturally then, it’s reasonable to deduce that indecision prevents us from accomplishing our goals. It not only creates frustration and anxiety; but indecision confuses the subconscious mind about what we want. That is not at all to suggest making snap decisions or behaving impulsively. We should always follow our intuition and make decisions that are in accordance to our true desires and purpose.

A lot of us let others make choices for us, or make choices according to societal norms or cultural stereotypes. Sometimes we make these choices even though they go against our own wishes. We must not make our life decisions based on the desires of other people. What is right for one individual may not be right for another, and the way to know what’s right for you is to listen to what your heart says.

So, to begin the process, make a list of things that interest you. Add things you’ve always enjoyed, things that make you feel better, that inspire you, etc.

Whatever it is that interests you, write it down and answer these questions:

What thing do you love to do?

What is it that you love about that thing, and why?

How could you do this for money, and make a living out of it?

Creating your Underlying Principle

The next step is to examine the list you made and find out if there is a recurring theme. Then, take the central theme of the things you love to do, and try to put it in a short and precise statement. This will be your Mission Statement. It could be a quote by a famous person, or a philosophy that has influenced you. The mission statement doesn’t have to be permanent; it can grow and change as you do. Go ahead and write down your Mission Statement 🙂

Aligning your Life with Your Underlying Principle

Now that you have your Mission Statement, it’s time to map out the path to your ultimate purpose. By implementing small changes and remaining consistent to them, you will begin living out your underlying principle each and every day. By becoming aware and intentional of this underlying principle of your life, you will certainly start to feel the difference in your enthusiasm for life as a whole. Create time and space to bring the things on your list into your life. If you find that you like being in nature, plan a camping trip or visit a national park.

You could even change professions or start a business that more closely aligns with your Mission.

So..there it is!

By following the steps mentioned above, you will be on your way to finding and living out your purpose. And as you go through this process, always remember that –

“You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously. ” – Steve Maraboli

Until next time beautiful souls 💖

Complete

Hello beautiful souls 💖

Today, there is so much gratitude and joy in my heart as I see a painful cycle of my life coming to a close.

Over the past few much I have endured much. Some of it good, some…not so much, but I learned a lesson from every experience. And that, today is what I want to focus on.

It’s easy to feel good and be happy when things are going well. But it’s during those times of learning, unfamiliarity, and sometimes even betrayal that have the most growth and rewards come from them.

And during this time, is when I really learned how strong I am. I had been put in a strange and difficult position and there was no one to depend on but me. This is not to say, of course that no one was there for me. There were/are a few very special and very supportive people in my small circle that gave me words of encouragement and showed me kindness.

But when the rubber meets the road, if a person wants change, only they can do that for themselves. I had spent so much time doubting myself…I couldn’t do that anymore. I had to make something happen. There were people depending on me. I was depending on me.

I pulled myself together and started writing my goals down. I started meditating more, I wrote new affirmations and my confidence began to grow. I had no choice but to believe in myself.

It didn’t happen overnight, but things began to change. Once my perspective changed work got a bit easier and I saw the good in my situation.

And now I’m actually quite grateful for that betrayal because it set me free. It helped me see myself truly. I learned that I already am and have what I need.

I am complete within myself.

And so are you.

Until next time beautiful souls 💖

Stop Overthinking!

Hello beautiful souls!

I had an uncomfortable conversation with someone that I care about and it led me to the topic of this blog.

He pointed out that I am an “overthinker” and went on to say that having a conversation with me is hard sometimes because I put too much thought into my responses…

And it hurt.

Initially, I got upset. I was offended. Wow. I thought to myself. Did he just say that talking to me is hard? I could’ve responded that if talking to me was so difficult, then he could simply stop talking to me. But that would’ve been an egotistical response said out of negative emotions that I was feeling. I didn’t want that.

Instead, I took some time after the call to process and evaluate what was said. And there are still aspects of the conversation that do not resonate with me (I discarded those) but I found what he said to be true.

I do tend to overthink. I knew that before he said it. But what I didn’t understand was; why?

And now I know.

Overthinking is the byproduct of fear and self doubt. I had made decisions and said things in the past that led to such painful experiences, that I didn’t trust myself. I didn’t trust myself to say what I wanted to say exactly as I wanted to say it, I didn’t trust myself to do and be what I wanted to do and be because I had never done it before.

There was always someone or something holding me back.

I thought it was parents, Peers, teachers, the military, significant others, people on social media…

But after further review; I realized that the “someone” was me. And while it’s true that people didn’t respond well to things that I did and said, I had to come to grips with the fact that I am not responsible for another person’s reaction. Their truth and my truth may not be the same.

In addition to that, some of the past decisions I made that didn’t fare well were made from the ego and misinformation.

Overthinking only leads to procrastination, discomfort, anxiety, fear, complacency, and a myriad of other negative emotions and setbacks. Overthinking keeps us from living our best lives and being our most elevated selves. It prevents action and promotes mediocrity. Some people overthink to prevent making a decision not realizing that overthinking is a decision. It’s just not a favorable one.

Currently when faced with a decision; I consider these things: 1. I make sure that I am aligned with my inner wisdom. 2. I do not prioritize the opinions/reactions of others over my own.

Now that I am considering those two things with every decision, I can move forward in confidence.

This change is quite necessary in order for me to fulfill my calling and destiny in life. I cannot help or inspire others if I overthink and constantly live in my head.

And the change may not happen overnight. But I am putting this knowledge to work and developing a new practice.

So, the next time you’re faced with a decision and it’s time to take action, take a moment to think, but don’t let yourself be consumed by overthinking.

Do not let fear overtake you.

Everything is going to be okay.

From one recovering overthinker to another: trust yourself.

Until next time beautiful souls… 💜💫💜

Trust your Intuition

Hi!

I didn’t write last week because I didn’t feel like I had anything particularly helpful to blog about. Maybe next time, I will share a poem instead of not writing at all. We shall see…

Well, this week, I wanted to share something that happened to me that actually had me a bit out of sorts. I share this to emphasize the importance of trusting your own intuition.

About a week ago, after I meditated, I was on YouTube and I saw a pick a card video posted by The Gem Goddess. (I subscribe to her channel and I think she’s awesome and gifted.) So, I pick a card and proceed to listen to the reading…it was on point! I mean; spot on! She told me some great things as well as truths that I needed to hear.

I was reignited! I felt good.

About 10 minutes later, I noticed a YouTube notification and so I checked it out. It was a comment from Gem! I freaked out. It said, “message me on WhatsApp I have a vision for you.”

My mind was reeling. I was thinking ‘Wow. She actually responded to my comment, I wonder what she has to say…‘ ya know; things of that nature.

I don’t even have WhatsApp, but I downloaded it onto my phone and set it up so that I could message Gem.

She asked a few basic questions and I answered. She let me know that I needed a private reading; to which I said, okay. She then told me the price. It didn’t feel right to me, but I shook it off. After all, she’s The Gem Goddess!

She said that I needed to send her ‘a deposit’ so that she could schedule my reading via video call. I thought to myself, Let me stop being cheap. This is an investment. I’m investing in myself.

So I shrugged off that uneasy feeling and proceeded. I asked if she had cash app and she said yes. She sent me the info, and I looked up the name.

Wait, what?!

So I stopped in my tracks. That should be the end of the story, right? Wrong!

I got another message from “her”, asking if I had made the payment. When I responded that I didn’t because of the picture, she explained that he is her assistant and that her account has limits. Okay, I guess that makes sense…

All of this is happening while I’m running errands. I was driving up to my daughter’s job and received a WhatsApp video call. My sister answers it for me and I see the guy pictured. And then for a few seconds, I saw Gem Goddess on the screen. She was saying something but I couldn’t make it out. The signal dropped, but I figured it was because I was driving through the mountain area.

Seeing her on the screen; my skepticism faded. There was another message. Something to the affect of ‘see, I told you.’ Well, my mind was eased and I sent the payment through cash app.

After a little while of messaging back and forth, a began to feel like things weren’t right again. After a couple more basic questions, I noticed that the person’s speech patterns weren’t like hers at all. I realize that I don’t know her personally, but she didn’t at all come across how she does on the videos. And the things that were being said in this chat didn’t line up with the original reading. These things didn’t resonate with me at all!

And then I realized that I had been scammed. I don’t know how this con artist got access to her YouTube channel (I’m assuming that he hacked it) but this was not Gem Goddess.

At the risk of sounding dramatic; I felt violated. I had spoken to this person in confidence about things that were personal and private because I believed that they were someone else. And what’s more, this person took money from me!

I was upset, embarrassed, and hurt. But I’m okay now. It was a lesson learned, and now; more than ever I know to trust my intuition. We all have intuition. We all have light in us, and it is our duty to cultivate it, use it, and let it shine.

Trust yourselves beautiful people!

Until next time; much love. Be blessed and be free. 💜