How to Reset Your Mindset When Negativity Takes Over

Hey Boo!

If negative thoughts have been a challenge for you this week, you’re not alone.

We’ve all had those moments when our thoughts start looping, replaying the same worries or regrets on repeat. It’s like your mind gets stuck in a rut, and no matter how hard you try, it keeps circling back to the same negative track. This is what psychologists call rumination-and while it’s a normal human habit, it doesn’t have to run your life.

The truth is, you can reset your mindset. It’s not about never having negative thoughts- it’s about knowing how to gently redirect them so you can return to clarity and peace.

Why We Ruminate

Our brains are wired to scan for problems as a way of keeping us safe. That was useful for survival, but at this point in time it has outlived its usefulness. Rumination often causes us to overthink conversations, worry about the future, or relive old hurts. The problem is, rumination drains energy, magnifies stress, and keeps us from moving forward.

Here’s the good news- with awareness and practice, you can stop the spiral.

3 Steps to a Mindset Reset

Pause and Notice

The first step is awareness. When you realize you’re caught in a loop, pause and call it out: “I’m ruminating right now.” Simply noticing the pattern creates a little distance between you and your thoughts.

Breathe and Ground

Your body is your anchor. Take three slow, deep breaths. Feel your feet on the floor. This signals safety to your nervous system and calms the mental storm.

Redirect With Intention

Ask Yourself: “Where would I rather place my focus right now?” Choose something that lifts or steadies you- a gratitude list, a supportive affirmation, or even a small action like taking a walk. The point is to shift from passive replaying to active choice.

Gentle Practices to Help You Reset

Journaling: Write the looping thought down, then reframe it into something more supportive.

Affirmations: Speak kindness to yourself- “I am allowed to move forward. I choose peace over replay.”

Movement: Shake off the stuck energy with a stretch, dance, or walk outside.

Connection: Call a trusted friend or spend time with someone who makes you feel safe and grounded.

Remember: Resetting is a Practice

You don’t have to get it “perfect.’

Negative thoughts will come- it’s part of being human. What matters is how quickly and kindly you guide yourself back. Each time you practice pausing, breathing, and redirecting, you strengthen your ability to reset.

Your mind isn’t the enemy. It just needs a gentle reminder that you are in charge of where your focus goes. And with every reset, you reclaim a little more peace.

You can’t always control the first thought, but you can choose the second. Each reset is a chance to realign with clarity, calm, and compassion.

Til next time Boo.

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Cultivating Positivity and Resilience in Challenging Times: How to Reset Your Mindset

Having trouble shaking those negative thoughts? This week was rough for me too.

Negativity is a powerful force. It creeps into our thoughts, colors our perceptions, and sometimes takes root, casting a shadow over even the brightest moments. We all experience periods when negative thinking becomes overwhelming—when setbacks, stress, or disappointments seem to pile up, making it difficult to see the good around us. But the human mind is remarkably adaptable. With intention, practice, and a bit of self-compassion, anyone can reset their mindset and reclaim their sense of hope and possibility.

This blog will walk you through practical strategies to break free from negativity, offering both immediate tools and long-term habits to nurture a more positive, resilient outlook.

Understanding the Power of Mindset

Our mindset is the lens through which we view the world and ourselves. When negativity takes hold, this lens distorts our reality, causing us to focus on what’s wrong rather than what’s possible. Recognizing that you have the power to shift this lens is the first step towards change.

It’s important to remember that resetting your mindset isn’t about ignoring difficulties or pretending everything is perfect. Rather, it’s about equipping yourself with tools to respond to life’s challenges with greater balance, clarity, and optimism.

Step 1: Awareness—Recognize Negative Thought Patterns

The journey to a more positive mindset begins with awareness. Often, negative thinking becomes habitual, running in the background of our minds. Start by tuning in:

Notice Your Self-Talk: Pay attention to the inner dialogue you have throughout the day. Are you criticizing yourself, expecting the worst, or focusing on failures?
Identify Triggers: Reflect on moments when negativity spikes. Is it in response to certain people, situations, or times of day?
Label Your Thoughts: When you detect negative thinking, gently label it. For example: “That’s a self-critical thought” or “That’s a catastrophic prediction.”

Awareness doesn’t mean judgment. Observe these patterns with curiosity, not blame.

Step 2: Pause and Breathe

When negativity feels overwhelming, pause. Take a few deep, intentional breaths. This simple act does more than calm your body—it creates a moment of space between you and your thoughts, offering a chance to respond rather than react.

Inhale slowly through your nose for a count of four.
Hold for four counts.
Exhale gently through your mouth for a count of four.

Repeat this cycle several times. Notice how your body relaxes and your mind quiets, even if just slightly.

Step 3: Challenge and Reframe Negative Thoughts

Negative thoughts often go unchallenged in our minds, gaining strength by repetition. To break their hold, question their accuracy:

Ask Yourself: “Is this thought absolutely true?”
Seek Evidence: What facts support or contradict this thought?
Consider Alternatives: What might you say to a friend in a similar situation?

Once you’ve examined your thoughts, try reframing them:

Instead of “I always mess up,” try “I’ve made mistakes, but I’m learning and improving.”
Swap “Nothing ever works out” for “There have been setbacks, but there have also been successes.”

Reframing isn’t about blind positivity; it’s about approaching challenges with honesty and hope.

Step 4: Practice Gratitude, Even in Small Doses

Gratitude is a powerful antidote to negativity. It shifts your attention from what’s lacking to what’s present and good, even if those things seem small:

Begin a daily gratitude journal. Write down three things you’re grateful for each day, no matter how minor.
Share your appreciation with others—thank someone, acknowledge a kind gesture, or savor a pleasant moment.

Over time, gratitude retrains your mind to seek the positive, creating a buffer against future negativity.

Step 5: Engage in Activities That Uplift

When negativity feels all-consuming, positive action can disrupt the cycle:

Move Your Body: Physical activity—walking, stretching, dancing—releases endorphins and lightens your mood.
Connect with Supportive People: Reach out to friends, family, or supportive communities. Sometimes, sharing your thoughts can provide perspective and relief.
Do Something Creative: Draw, write, play music, cook—engage in activities that immerse you in the present.
Spend Time in Nature: Even a short walk outdoors can restore calm and clarity.

Step 6: Set Boundaries With Negativity

You can’t always control what happens, but you can choose what you focus on and how much energy you give to negative influences. Set boundaries:

Limit exposure to negative news and social media.
Distance yourself from chronic complainers or toxic environments when possible.
Replace negative content with things that inspire or educate you.

Protecting your mental space is an act of self-respect.

Step 7: Cultivate Self-Compassion

We are often our harshest critics. When negativity strikes, offer yourself the same kindness you’d show to a good friend:

Speak to yourself gently, especially when you’re struggling.
Recognize that everyone experiences difficulty and negative thinking—it’s part of being human.
Forgive yourself for setbacks and celebrate small victories.

Self-compassion doesn’t eliminate challenges, but it makes them easier to face.

Step 8: Create a Mindset Reset Routine

Consistency is key to lasting change. Create daily rituals that reinforce a positive mindset:

Meditate or practice mindfulness, even for five minutes each day.
Read or listen to inspirational material.
Visualize positive outcomes or repeat affirmations that resonate with you.

Over time, these practices lay the foundation for resilience and optimism.

Step 9: Seek Professional Support When Needed

Sometimes, negativity stems from deeper emotional struggles such as anxiety, depression, or trauma. If you find it difficult to manage on your own, reach out to a mental health professional. Therapy or counseling provides tailored tools and support to help you reset your mindset and heal.

Remember

Negativity is a natural part of life, but it doesn’t have to define you. By practicing awareness, challenging your thoughts, nurturing yourself with gratitude and kindness, and building daily habits that uplift, you can reset your mindset—even in the darkest moments. Remember: every step you take toward positivity, no matter how small, is an act of courage and hope. Over time, these efforts can transform not only your thoughts, but your life.

Your mind is a garden—tend it with care, and watch resilience and optimism blossom, even after the storms.

Til next time Boo!

What it Really Means to Glow Up Your Mindset

Hey Boo!

If you’re like most people, when you hear “glow up” you think of outer changes like new clothes, hair, makeup, or weight loss. While those things are wonderful and can be empowering, the real glow up begins on the inside. Your mindset shapes how you see yourself, how you move through challenges, and how much light you allow yourself to shine into the world.

A mindset glow up isn’t about becoming someone new-it’s about uncovering the radiant version of you that’s been there all along.

Why Your Mindset Matters

Your mindset is the lens through which you view your life. When it’s clouded with self-doubt, limiting beliefs, or fear, everything feels heavier. But when you begin to shift toward self-belief, possibility, and trust, life feels lighter and more aligned. Suddenly,opportunities that once felt out of reach begin flowing your way.

3 Ways to Glow Up Your Mindset

Release Old Beliefs

Think of old limiting thoughts as outdated clothes- they may have served you once, but they no longer fit who you are becoming. Letting them go creates space for new, empowering beliefs to take their place.

Try this: Write down one belief that no longer serves you, then reframe it into an empowering truth. For example, the limiting belief I’m not good enough can be reframed to I am more than capable and worthy of everything I desire.

Embody Your Glowed-Up Self

Manifestation works when you align with the version of yourself who already has what you want. That means showing up with confidence, speaking kindly to yourself, and making choices as if your desires are already reality.

Ask Yourself: “What would the glowed-up version of me believe, say, or do in this moment?” And then do exactly that.

Practice Daily Glow Rituals

Consistency is key. Small daily rituals- like affirmations, journaling, or mindful breathing-keep your energy aligned with your intentions. Over time, these little practices compound into major shifts in mindset and manifestation.

You can start the mindset shift by saying an affirmation every morning while taking a deep breath. It could be something simple like: “I radiate confidence, love, and abundance.”

The Glow-Up Isn’t About Perfection

Remember: a mindset glow-up doesn’t happen overnight, and it isn’t about being perfect. It’s about progress. It’s about catching yourself in moments of self-doubt and choosing to redirect yourself toward self-belief. It’s about celebrating small wins, trusting the process, and glowing brighter each day.

Never forget- your glow isn’t something that you need to earn, it’s already within you. By upgrading your mindset and aligning your energy, you allow your inner light to shine more powerfully. That’s the kind of glow that no one can take away.

Til next time Boo

P.S. Keep Glowing…

The Lies We Believe: 5 Limiting Beliefs That Keep You Stuck (And How to Rewrite Them)

Hey Boo!

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough” or “I could never do that” -and believed it? You’re not alone by any means.

We all carry beliefs that once helped us survive- but over time, they can quietly turn into walls that keep us small. Sometimes, we’re not even aware we’re holding them.

For me, one of the biggest ones was this:

“I have to overwork myself to prove my worth.”

There was a time I believed that rest had to be earned. That if I wasn’t constantly doing, achieving, or helping someone else, that I wasn’t valuable. That belief followed me for years. It shaped how I showed up- exhausted, resentful, and always reaching.

Until one day, I asked myself:

Who told me that? And why am I still listening?

That was the beginning of my unlearning. And now, I want to help you begin yours.

Let’s talk about 5 limiting beliefs that might be holding you back- and how to start rewriting them, one truth at a time.

Limiting Belief 1. “I’m not enough.”

This is one of the most deeply rooted beliefs- often born from past trauma, comparison, or constantly being told we had to be more, do more, or look a certain way to matter. Try this truth instead: “I am growing, healing, and worthy- exactly as I am.”

You don’t need to earn your worth. You were always enough. Now it’s just about remembering that.

Limiting Belief 2. I don’t deserve good things.

Whether it came from guilt, shame, or someone convincing you that you had to suffer to be strong, this belief can block you from receiving joy, love, and abundance. Try this truth instead: “I deserve peace, pleasure, and goodness- simply because I exist.”

You’re not here to prove anything. You’re here to experience life fully.

Limiting Belief 3. “If I fail, it means I’m not cut out for this.”

This one sneaks in when we tie our worth to our performance or fear judgment. But failure doesn’t mean you’re not meant for it- it just means you’re in it and you’re figuring your way out. Try this truth instead: “Failure is feedback- not a final verdict.”

Every step is a lesson. Keep going.

Limiting Belief 4. “I need permission to follow my dreams.”

Sometimes we wait for someone else to believe in us before we believe in ourselves. But your dreams don’t need outside approval- just your yes. Try this truth instead: “I am my own permission slip.”

You can take the leap. You always could.

Limiting Belief 5. “It’s too late for me.”

This one stings. But here’s the truth: the past is irrelevant, as it no longer exists. What matters is now. And life isn’t on a schedule. Your timing is divine, not delayed. Try this truth instead: “I’m right on time for the life I’m meant to live.”

Start where you are. The next chapter is waiting.

Ready to Rewire? Start Here:

Limiting beliefs lose their power when you name them, challenge them, and replace them. If you’re ready to begin rewiring, let’s start with this prompt:

What limiting belief am I ready to let go of, and what truth will I choose instead?

You don’t have to believe the lies your pain told you.

You get to choose again.

Until next time Boo, keep Glowing…

How to Identify Limiting Beliefs

Hey Boo!

Have you ever made a statement like “I can’t afford that”, “I don’t have time”, or “I am not (insert limit here) enough”? Limiting beliefs are those that confine you and incorrectly define you.

Limiting beliefs are the lies or excuses we tell ourselves that ultimately prevent or delay our success. The majority of limiting beliefs are subconscious and started in childhood when rules and limits were imposed. As crucial as these rules and guidelines were for your safety or success in school, this is likely where you started developing limiting beliefs. These limiting beliefs can hold us back from living a whole life as adults. We still have rules to follow, but there are less and achievement is endless. While you do not have to adhere to the same standards and regulations as a child or young adult, that does not mean your mind has changed to know any better.

It is your responsibility to recognize and break down these limiting beliefs to accomplish all the impressive goals you have. This blog will show you how to identify your limiting beliefs and overcome them so you can achieve greater heights in life.

Identify Your Beliefs

There are a few ways to identify your limiting beliefs, and all require personal reflection. It may even be helpful to bring in a close friend or coworker to help identify your limiting beliefs through an open conversation. It can be challenging to identify limiting beliefs, but here are a couple of exercises you can do to help find them.

Make A List Of Your Own Beliefs.

Take time to write down any beliefs you hold that are important to you and influence your everyday life. Then, you can group these beliefs into different categories, like finances, family, relationships, and health. When you’ve done this, consider the ones that limit your growth and the ones that help.

Analyze Your Behavior

You can also assess your behavior to identify limiting beliefs. For example, consider situations where you have acted negatively or in unhealthy ways and why you behaved that way. Limiting beliefs may be the underlying cause of your toxic behavior if you examine it closely.

For instance, if you find it difficult to talk about money or a financial situation, you may possess the limiting belief that money or conflict is terrible, which makes having difficult but necessary conversations regarding budgeting, retirement, and general finances in life. Consequently, causing relational conflicts when money is involved, e.g., marriage and business.

It may also be an excellent time to bring in a trusted individual to help you identify your limiting beliefs during this analyzing process. For instance, watch where your inner dialog goes when someone compliments you. Is it gratitude or distrust? If it is distrust, there is most likely a limiting belief looming in the corner of your mind. Analyze that moment and see if you can figure out the limiting belief and what new, more positive belief or mantra can replace it.

Where Are You Repeatedly Challenged?

Think about times when you repeatedly struggle. Perhaps, you never have luck in romantic relationships, or you procrastinate consistently when a specific task needs to get done. These challenges may indicate a limiting belief. Whenever you write down an area of challenge, take note of which of your thoughts may be holding you back. In other words, if you’re constantly struggling to squeeze in a workout, find out what you think about health and wellness and how accessible it is for you. What is the limiting belief, the consistent excuse, or the lack of confidence preventing you from achieving this goal?

Applying Change to Break Down Barriers

To start letting go of limiting beliefs, we need to let go of certainty. As humans, we love stability, comfort, and certainty. However, certainty can also hold you back.(Think of certainty in this case as stagnancy or complacency.) It’s what prevents you from leaving unhealthy relationships, starting that business you want to have, traveling to that far away place that intrigues you, and keeps you from quitting that job you hate. Certainty can be a dream killer. Combining certainty with limited beliefs will keep you stuck in unhappiness and unfulfillment for a very long time. So let’s start with killing certainty and then change those limiting beliefs.

Once you understand that certainty needs to go, it’s time to start changing self-talk. More often than not, negative self-talk tells you why you can’t achieve your goals. Unfortunately, self-talk is constant, and we must switch out negative self-talk with positive, life-giving, empowering thoughts. Once you identify your limiting beliefs, choose a new empowering belief to replace them. Then, apply this new belief whenever you feel the only limiting belief creep up. Doing this will create a new habit of thought and slowly change your mindset and eliminate limiting beliefs over time.

Until Next Time Boo, keep Glowing…

If You Can See It…

Hey Boo!

Have you ever heard that phrase, ‘if you can see it, you can be it?’ Well, it’s not just some cutesy little phrase, it’s an actual fact. If you can’t see yourself with a better job, you won’t get one. If you can’t see yourself leaving him or her, you won’t leave them. Ultimately, if you can’t see yourself doing better in life then you will not do better in life! Why? Because change happens in your mind before it changes in your environment. This is a lesson that I had to learn. I struggled doing better for myself because I struggled to see better for myself. Things began to change for me when I made that change in my mind.

So, how do you get that change to happen in your mind? There are a few necessary components. First, you have to have a clear idea of what you want. Take a moment right now and ask yourself- What do I truly want in this moment? Be honest. Don’t judge it. What is it that you truly want? Your first response is usually the correct one *Prince Akeem thinks so too* Go ahead and write down what you truly want in life right now.

After you’ve defined what you want, the next necessary component is to believe that you are worthy of it. Do you believe that you are worthy of the thing that you desire most in life? Do you believe it’s possible for you? Can you see yourself achieving that goal or acquiring that thing that you desire? If you don’t believe that you are worthy of what your heart desires, I will be sharing content on my social media to help you recognize your worth and remove that wound. It has been very helpful for me on my healing journey and I periodically return to the information as reinforcement. Knowing your worth can help you remove the nagging thoughts that prevent you from visualizing the life that you desire, thus pushing your dream life or goal further and further away.

Let’s bring the goal back into focus with a nice visualization technique. A great way to visualize is to close your eyes and think of something with as much detail as you can. Project it in front of you as if you’re watching a movie. What do you want? What does it look like? Look at it from different angles. Can you see yourself with it/in it/ with it? If it’s a house, how is it decorated? How do you look? Can you see the joy on your face? Feel the excitement? What about your friends or loved ones? Are they there celebrating you? The goal is to create as much detail in your mind as possible. Let go of worries. Let go of logic and really see yourself in that moment. Feels great doesn’t it?

…Unless you’re like I was and had a difficult time visualizing. Once I identified what I wanted and realized that I am truly worthy of it, I still struggled with seeing myself with it. The only things that I could see were the things that I remembered, and that was no good. They were just memories of things that I had in the past, and that wasn’t what I wanted for myself. I didn’t want my old life, I wanted my new one! But all I could picture was my old car and my old house because those were the nicest things that I had.

So, I created some new things to visualize by looking at house listings on the internet (preferably the ones with video) I placed myself in every room and inmagined myself walking through the beautiful homes and properties. AI photos have also been very helpful. It allowed me to look at myself in different places, with different looks and has helped me visualize and create a vibration lifting, emersive experience for myself.

Well, that’s all I have for this week Boo. Remember that the things that you desire in alignment are things that belong to you. They are waiting for you to come and claim them.

If you can see it, you can be it.

Until next time beautiful soul, keep Glowing…

P.S. * The Prince Akeem line is a reference to the movie Coming to America. In this particular scene, Prince Akeem was talking to his love interest who didn’t know he was a prince and also had a boyfriend. She expressed doubts in continuing her relationship with superficial Daryl and then attempted to backtrack to which Akeem responded, ‘the first response is usually the correct one.’ (Meaning to say that her initial thoughts to end her relationship with Daryl were correct because Akeem was secretly in love with her.)

Okay, bye for real this time! lol

The Ultimate Success Formula

Hey Boo!

Do you know what it takes to be successful?

I’m sure that if you ask around, you will find different definitions of success and different answers to the formula of success. The truth is, success leaves clues and you can achieve success in the area you desire by observing the common qualities and principles. They are simple and considered to be common sense but many people simply do not follow them.

Let me share with you one of my favorite quotes:

“There are no secrets to success. It is the results of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.” -Colin Powell

As stated in that quote, there are three key factors to achieve massive success in your life:

Preparation

You don’t have to wait for everything to be perfect. Start with the first step and keep moving. Success doesn’t happen overnight. Prepare, prepare, prepare. You must be ready to receive the success you desire. Set your sight to the destination that you want to achieve, then work and prepare for the moment when the opportunity knocks your door. As one of my mentors once said to me, “it’s better to be prepared and not have the opportunity than to have the opportunity and not be prepared.”

Hard Work

Success needs hard work. Don’t listen to these ‘get rich quick’ schemes. You need to build your character and work hard on yourself and your business to achieve greatness. By ‘hard work’ what I mean is consistent, intentional work. Do the right things and do them in the right way. Don’t procrastinate. Take bold actions. Work with determination to craft your legacy.

Learning from failure

Successful people do not see failures as failures. They see them as important learning lessons. Lessons that are capable of giving them insights to prevent such mistakes from happening again. By adopting this mindset of turning each failure into a learning lesson or opportunity, you can never fail until you yourself quit.

It is also important to focus on your evolution and don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s. Comparison is the thief of joy and once you try to do things like someone else instead of yourself, you cheat yourself and the world out of a unique experience.

And I will end this blog with another great quote: “Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.” -Winston Churchill

Until Next Time Beautiful Souls, keep Glowing…