Hey Boo!
From personal experience I know that after experiencing trauma and long periods of anxiety, your mind can start to feel like an unsafe place. Like the last place you want to be. Instead of peace, there’s tension. Instead of calm, there’s chaos. You might even avoid quiet moments because that’s when your thoughts scream the loudest.
If you’ve ever felt unsafe in your own mind- you’re not alone. And you’re not broken.
Healing takes time, but it is absolutely possible to build a sense of safety within yourself again. Here are a few ways to begin that journey:
Speak to Yourself Like Someone You Love
When anxiety or fear take over, your inner voice might become harsh or critical. You may find yourself saying things like “Why am I like this?” or “I should be over this by now.”
But what if you responded like you would to a scared child or a hurting friend?
Try this:
“It’s okay to feel scared right now. You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to feel.”
Compassion softens fear. The more you speak gently to yourself, the safer you begin to feel.
Create Anchor Rituals that Ground You
When your thoughts feel scattered or overwhelming, grounding yourself in small, familiar actions can signal safety to your nervous system.
A few simple anchor rituals:
Drinking warm tea while holding the mug with both hands
Saying a calming affirmation in the mirror: “I am safe in this moment.”
Pressing your feet into the floor and naming three things you see, hear, and feel.
These rituals bring you back to now, where your power is.
Reclaim Control with Gentle Boundaries
Feeling unsafe in your mind is often tied to a deeper feeling of powerlessness. That’s why setting boundaries-even with yourself- can feel empowering.
Examples:
Limiting time around people who drain or invalidate you
Saying “no” to conversations or content that re-trigger you
Creating tech-free quiet hours for mental peace
Every boundary is a message to your brain: You matter. Your peace matters.
Let Your Emotions Move (Don’t Bottle Them Up)
Anxiety and trauma thrive in silence. The more you try to push feelings away, the more trapped you may feel.
Instead, try this:
Cry
Journal
Scribble
Talk to a safe person
Dance to a song that understands you
Letting your emotions move through you keeps them from getting stuck inside you.
Rewire Safety Through Repetition
Healing your mind is like re-teaching it how to trust again. And that takes consistency. Try ending each day with:
A calming ritual (like dimming the lights and doing deep breathing)
A short phrase: “I made it through today. That’s enough.”
Noticing even one moment you felt peace, safety, or softness- even if it was tiny.
Safety doesn’t always come back with a bang. Sometimes, it returns in whispers.
If you’re struggling to feel safe in your own mind, please know this: You are not weak. You are healing from something that shook your core- and that kind of healing takes courage. Keep showing up for yourself. Keep creating little safe spaces within. Over time, those safe spaces become home.
You deserve to feel safe. You always have.
Until next time Boo, keep Glowing…
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